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    Cecelia posted an update 3 days, 2 hours ago

    Beyond stressed. I feel both my parent and partner tugging at me and I am losing myself in the process.. it’s very triggering because it’s reminiscent of my childhood. Emotionally gaslit by my parent and her having control over everything and i just feel paralyzed from the trauma and loss of control. All the pressure and stress from my intense…[Read more]

    • Oli replied 3 days ago

      Your parents and your partner should treat you with love and always be there to support you @invincible, you are such a lovely, wonderful and amazing angel who deserves happiness in your life sweetheart, don’t let them gaslight or bully you Cecelia, you have been through so much sweetie and come out as a brave, strong survivor Cecelia, please…[Read more]

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    Cecelia posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Not me having a spicy dream w/ my boyfriend whom i am super passionate about in every single way, and then in the dream suddenly my ex (big regret disgust) and BOSS (abusive) show up… totally ruined my mood this morning LOL. having anxious dreams lately. :(

    • You truly deserve to have dreams about and spend time with people who bring you happiness, love and support @invincible, don’t let anxiety and horrible people get you down beautiful Cecelia, remember to focus on making your relationship with your boyfriend stronger and letting each day guide you with positivity, hope and brightness sweetie, smile…[Read more]

    • *facpalm* Absolutely ruined the dream xD. The worst part it’s that you wake up with negative feelings that are hard to shake off during the day. Try to do relaxing routines before bed time, so the chances to have bad dreams decrease.

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    Cecelia posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    My parent is gatekeeping the $$$ and info from my accident and new car opportunities which is just pushing me even more to get out and be independent, I just need to get my spending and saving in order…

    • and i can’t start to do credit because apparently you hagve to have a histor yof it but I never have??? frustrating. real world sucks. but i love it because i can be INDEPENDENT. all i crave.

    • Do take care of yourself @invincible, it’s great to see you striving to be independent wonderful Cecelia, hope you recover from your accident, do look after your money and vehicle sweetie, remember to budget wisely, spend only what you need and budget wisely, I’m sure you will lead a truly positive, fulfilling and meaningful life Cecelia, always…[Read more]

    • thank you so much Oli, I need to just remember to and apply budgeting to my life, especially since I have to look after myself first, my cat, and now my life with my new love who i think is the one. it’s big responsibilites but i want it more than anything.

    • It’s so frustrating that the ones who are supposed to take care of you and give you the resources to be an independent adult, do not let you grow and live your life. You are very determined and hard working Cecelia. I know you’ll fulfill your goal to live with your significant other and your cat in a home you’ll call your own. As you said, all…[Read more]

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    Cecelia posted an update 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Yes, it’s moving fast. But it’s my life. My choices and my relationship. Moving this fast could result in a marriage of 20 years. OR it could end in a few months. Either way, it’s my life. And I am not afraid of living. If an outsider is, well, focus on yourself boo.

    • Don’t let anyone dictate to you on how to live your life @invincible, remember to be positive, optimistic and bright beautiful angel Cecelia, focus on making your relationship with your boyfriend stronger as each day passes sweetie, do not let anyone or anything stand in the way of your happiness Cecelia, everything will go amazingly for you…[Read more]

    • Moving fast does not equal moving towards the wrong direction @invincible. Just to give a little example, my partner asked me to live with him when we were just one month into our relationship as a couple (we were friends from a year ago). We finally moved in together when we were 10 months into the relationship. We are currently into our 2 year…[Read more]

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    Oli posted an update 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    I’m so lonely, alone and sad, it’s hopeless for me :(

    Mood : Depressed
    • Oli you are a fantastic friend, who is caring, generous, helpful, warm hearted and sincere. It’s very difficult to deal with these feelings, even more during this cold season. Remember that I’m here for you if you need it my friend. You’ve done, and are still doing, so much for every member of the BT community, and you can count on us too to help…[Read more]

    • I second this!

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    Cecelia posted an update 4 weeks ago

    with a new guy, it’s on the road to getting serious but something keeps botheirng me and it concerns his past and the women he has been with, in a serious level physically, emotionally, socially & sexually. i can’t shake it and need someone to talk to. might consider speaking with my old therapist on a day off. i really care about him and he is…[Read more]

    • I would talk to your therapist about your concerns @invincible, but do also talk to your boyfriend about how you see things in the relationship and where you want things to go from here sweetie, do keep the lines of communication open between yourself and your boyfriend Cecelia, be as open and honest with each other as you can, remember we all…[Read more]

    • You’re already on the right path Cecelia. If there is something that does not let you enjoy your relationship, or it prevents it from growing and evolving, you should bring it to the table and talk about your concerns with your therapist or with someone you can really trust. If you feel comfortable enough, you could address this topic to your…[Read more]

    • thank you @m1s1m3 and @oliver, your sweet and helpful words mean so much to me, you don’t even know. I appreciate you both so much and am hoping you guys are well, I am here for you as you are here for me, and I couldn’t be more grateful for that. Trying to set up a therapy appt now, and am going to talk to my boyfriend about my concerns as well…[Read more]

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    Oli posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    I feel so lonely and alone :(

    Mood : Depressed
    • Oli, you’re an amazing person. You have many friends and contacts here in BT. I don’t know about your personal life beyond the screen, but try to spend some time with your family and friends in your place of living.
      And please be gentle with yourself. It’s winter and with winter many people are prone towards sadness and depression. What works…[Read more]

    • Oli, you’re an amazing person. You have many friends and contacts here in BT. I don’t know about your personal life beyond the screen, but try to spend some time with your family and friends in your place of living.
      And please be gentle with yourself. It’s winter and with winter many people are prone towards sadness and depression. What works…[Read more]

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    Cecelia posted an update 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    things are just really hard right now with a territory i’m unfamiliar with and i feel so alone, which i am, especially with dealing with this.

    • That’s the worst part about dealing with difficult situations… Feeling alone in them. I’m sorry you are going throught that Cecelia. If I can be of any help, or if you need to talk, remember that I’m here for you ♥ @invincible

    • Please don’t feel alone @invincible, remember you are such a wonderful, awesome and lovely person Cecelia who deserves to be in a place where you feel safe, positive and happy sweetie, don’t let the dark and difficult moments break you down Cecelia, look forward as your future will be so bright and filled with optimism, I’m sure you will get to…[Read more]

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    Oli posted an update 4 months, 1 week ago

    I’m a failure and a loser :(

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    Oli posted an update 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’m so lonely, friendless, alone, sad and depressed, it’s hopeless and so truly terrifying, what’s going to happen to me or become of me?, I’m just pathetic, a loser, a recluse and hermit, life is just so meaningless and pointless :(

    Mood : Depressed
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    Oli posted an update 5 months ago

    I’m so lonely, depressed, alone and friendless :( , it’s hopeless for me and always will be. :(

    Mood : Depressed
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    Cecelia posted an update 5 months ago

    I dont’ think I’ve felt awake this whole year.

    • Oli replied 5 months ago

      What’s on your mind? @invincible, remember you are such a beautiful, special and awesome person who deserves all the happiness and positivity that life has to offer wonderful angel Cecelia, remember to stay focused on making yourself feel upbeat and surround yourself with brightness sweetie, you can do it Cecelia, feel free to inbox me anytime if…[Read more]

    • That one’s quite a difficult feeling to manage. Also, the events of these past two-three years do not really help to feel awake. I hope you are doing better now @invincible. Remember to take one day at a time, and to take care of yourself. If you need to chat, you can DM me whenever <3

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    Cecelia posted an update 5 months ago

    I don’t feel awake.

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    Oli posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m so alone, depressed, sad and lonely, I always will be that way no matter what I do or how hard I try, It’s so hopeless because I will NEVER be able to find true happiness in life :(

    Mood : Depressed
    • You of all people deserve happiness. Look at all the time you spend lifting others up! Be kind to yourself and remember you deserve love

    • Just as blackdog said to you, you deserve true happiness Oli. You uplift everyone’s mood when they need it, and believe in everybody’s strength. Believe in yourself too <3. You are full of virtues, and you deserve to appreciate them, as well as we do :) .

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    Cecelia posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    He really got me listening to taylor swift at work LOL
    It’s been 12 years since I used to listen to her HAHAHA

    Mood : Loved
    • Awww, that’s so sweet @invincible, keep listening to music that makes you feel happy, loved and brings a smile to your face beautiful angel Cecelia, glad to see you are doing well sweetie, remember you are truly awesome, incredible and fantastic, stay upbeat Cecelia, you can do it, feel free to inbox me anytime if you ever need to chat or vent,…[Read more]

    • It’s nice to catch up on old hobbies. It can feel very nostalgic!

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    Cecelia posted an update 7 months, 1 week ago

    Doing a lot. Taking up and building numerous hobbies, thriving in work, school, relationships… optimism and love seems to be overpowering any kind of fear and insecurity..

    • Glad to see that things are going well for you @invincible, remember to stay positive and I know you’ll continue to thrive in all parts of your life beautiful angel Cecelia, keep being upbeat sweetie and always smile confidently and brightly, you can do it Cecelia, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are…[Read more]

    • It’s great to see you achieving so much and feeling upbeat, Cecelia. Keep growing that optimism and working on the things that make you happy. You’ve earned it!

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    Cecelia posted an update 7 months, 1 week ago

    I could cry with how proud I am over the simple perspective in the most miniscule way… just four years ago I was mesmerized with the story of Anna Karenina and I completely glamourized Anna & Vronsky, and I identified with Anna a lot.

    Now in a healthy, growing relationship, I find myself wanting just that. A healthy relationship with myself…[Read more]

    • You truly do deserve a loving, fulfilling and positive relationship with someone special @invincible, remember to always be kind to yourself sweetie and please know that any relationship you are in will continue going from strength to strength, be with someone who loves you and who will stick by you through anything, don’t focus on those who…[Read more]

    • It’s absolutely amazing to read this! I’m so happy for you Cecelia <3. You deserve to be loved and to be in a healthy relationship with a partner that makes you feel loved and secure, and that lets you keep growing and be your true self. I wish the best for you, you really deserve it @invincible

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    Cecelia posted an update 8 months ago

    Feeling a little disappointed and hurt. It just seems that I will try my hardest to dedicate myself and my time to the one I love but they can’t do that for me. My stomach was hurting before we called for a bit, it went away when talking, now after hanging up it’s back and I just want to sleep because I’m hurt.and over thinking

    • Oli replied 8 months ago

      They should do the same for you @invincible, you are such a beautiful, special and wonderful person Cecelia who deserves to love and be loved, any person who you are in a relationship with should treat you with the support, care, love, compassion and kindness that you show to them, it’s great to truly love someone but they should always return…[Read more]

    • Unfortunately, I know that feeling you describe Cecelia. Sometimes we try our best to be there for the ones we love, even when they do not reciprocate. If that’s the case, you should set boundaries, even if it hurts. Otherwise, they’ll keep benefiting from your kindness without worrying about you neither giving anything back. Something similar…[Read more]

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    Oli replied to the forum topic A ship without captain in the group Group logoBlahTherapy Improvements/Suggestions 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    I second both of you on this @blackdog and @m1s1m3, this site has been abandoned for so long, it’s so sad compared to what BT used to be a few years ago, I would put myself forward to be moderator if that is what […]

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    Oli joined the group Group logoBlahTherapy Improvements/Suggestions 8 months, 2 weeks ago

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