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209 QA Reputation0 | Joy said 8 years, 10 months ago: hi, I’m new here
I wanna talk about some sexual issues I’m having
I’m a virgin but I’m a very sexual person
ever since I was young, before I understood sex, I would fantasize frequently. I started touching myself at a very young age and started porn before that.
because if this, I never developed normal boundaries, been interested in weird stuff. now it seems like taboo and intensity are the only thing that get me off. my boyfriend has vanilla tastes, he likes things to be intimate and light when he watches porn. I don’t seem to like anything, I can only get off in one position (which doesn’t involve penetration) and nothing arouses me. I try to get off without using porn and I struggle. with porn I struggle, I work toward an unsatisfactory end and feel frustrated. I feel as if I’ve ruined my sexuality and my innocence before knowing what I was doing. I feel depraved. I can’t get off with my boyfriend, can’t try new things or enjoy myself, I don’t enjoy anything, I’m stuck in one position watching or reading horrible porn which doesn’t arouse and I’m afraid I’m faced with a future of faking orgasm for someone I love.
I’m sorry this was so graphic. please
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221 QA Reputation-6 | plato said 8 years, 10 months ago: If you’re 18 you’ll probably break up with the guy sooner or later anyway and find someone else who will share your preferences. | |
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1859 QA Reputation816 | Kathrine said 8 years, 10 months ago: Porn is totally diffrent to sex in real life . In porn there is most strangers but in real life you really have sex with people you have feeling too . You can always talk with your boyfrind about things you like and things you dont like so reverse and then just do a compromise if so trying diffrent things. Maybe when you will start to actually have an intimate realation things will change and you will happen to like diffrent things . And that teaste of fullfillness will get to the point where you will find pleasure not only in porns . You dont have to fake an orgasm . You can help him showing him the things you like and even if avalible help yourself . If you dont really know the reality of it yet maybe you worry too much about it already. And it wont be as bad as you think like in case pleasure . First time hurts . | |
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1708 QA Reputation666 | AnnieH said 8 years, 9 months ago: Honey, I am the queen of masturbation and I love porn in all genres. Hell recently a friend of mine turned me on to animal porn in all honesty it doesn’t get me horny, but it sure is funny. The thing is porn does not seemed to have defined my sexuality, I enjoy it and I enjoy masturbation at the same time I am aroused by both men and women. Of course my preference to types is different. For example in girls I prefer them around my age and I am super turned on by older men. You just have to be open and honest with whomever your sex partner is. I don’t mind saying hey I don’t like that or maybe if you do this right there I would like it better. | |
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137 QA Reputation0 | Jake from Statefarm said 8 years, 9 months ago: If the porn is not satisfying you, have you thought about tryng something completely different that you may not think you would enjoy? Maybe it will at least give you some ideas or open a new part of your psyche that you weren’t in tune with before.
If you are old enough, and if you live in a large city, or close to one, you could always look for a “jack and jill” club. That may open you to some new experiences. I have never been to one, but from what I have read, they are usually “no touching others” groups, so should be relativily safe. That may be something for you too @AnnieH. WOuld beat really bad animal porn. lol | |
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661 QA Reputation102 | Squidfase said 8 years, 9 months ago: Okay, not sure why no one has tried to look at this from a mental point of view, but here I go. So, like yourself, I was hyper sexual starting at a young age. This is generally a result of one of many BPD. It’s the first thing we learn as humans that contributes to our reward system. Basically what happened was, you found out that certain sexual things released chemicals that made you feel euphoric, thus so you kept doing these things. By these things, I do mean as simple as having a conversation, or watching a video. Sexual release is like a drug, and like a drug you can over stimulate your brain. After awhile, if constantly overstimulated, your brain won’t produce those feelings anymore. Then you stop getting off, then things don’t turn you on anymore. The more you did it, the more you needed. Just like a drug. Your body and mind will build a tolerance. Going deeper into the rabbit hole isn’t going to help you any. Being someone just like yourself, most people won’t understand. You will find yourself ..basically out fucking damn near all of your partners, even the ones that bragged about how horny they were. Been there done that. Personally I found my “cure” was an actual drug, which I DO NOT advise. When I stopped doing this drug, the drive came back. What can you do to “fix” yourself? The same thing you do to quit any sort of drug, except they don’t make any fancy fucking pill to counteract sexual withdraws. I would go cold turkey for awhile on the sexual anything, and consider looking into the other mental issues you may be burdened with. Some people may think I’m wrong about saying that, but I’m literally speaking from personal experience and the knowledge I’ve gained throughout my battle with BPD and Hyper Sexuality. If you want to talk, I’m an open book. | |
