I would be there for him and try to help as much as you can @paperkites21, hopefully with your support and love, he will overcome his struggles and the relationship will become stronger, things will work out for both of you, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone (hugs)

@paperkites21 Sounds like a handful, I hope it doesn’t become a pattern where when you discuss some problem it turns into a shame spiral. Maybe you can consider taking a stand and making it clear that you will cancel your plans together if he shows up in such a state to your times together.

It sounds all good. You went into this with your eyes open. He is 47 and has a lot of baggage, especially since he was “available” at his age. Drunkenness is just a way of dealing with his baggage, which is evident by his crying and porn (probably addicted). His relationship with you may have cost him another relationship, but he made choices as…[Read more]

Thank you so much! You were very helpful.. thanks for not judging. You’re the best!

You deserve a relationship that is strong and loving @paperkites21, I would try to talk to your boyfriend about being close and intimate, hopefully he will listen and try to make changes, I’m sure things will work out, do what you feel is best for you going forward, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone (hugs)

Have you talked to him about this specifically, the way you’re describing now? Have you tried asking him what’s going on, or told him how it’s making you feel and why you don’t like to stay at home? There are many possible reasons to why he could be acting that way. Perhaps he’s more of an introvert, and is simmering down to a level more…[Read more]

@paperkites21 Some people would offer to help him with his rent for a few months just to buy themselves out of a remorse which would prevent them to break free, it’s an option if that’s one of the few things keeping you there.

What does your side guy suggest? I think shampoo person makes sense – offer two months, but move on now. You are not responsible for his career decisions, just yours. Let him be an adult.

@paperkites21 I’ve said this before but I’ll repeat it: if you’re not happy with someone, break up with him. If you already tried dozens of times to work things out, and it still didn’t work, break up. Why keep living a lie? Lying to yourself that you’re “happy” with him? You have your whole life in front of you and you’re blocking…[Read more]

Hi I totally get how you feel. I know spending 6 years with someone is a very long time and you are bound to get even more attached. But if there is no love in a relationship or if he is treating you that way girl you deserve someone much better that that. If you don’t feel loved or you having a feeling its not right i would say follow what your…[Read more]

I would do what you feel is right for you @paperkites21, hopefully you will meet his parents at some point and you will make a decision about where your feelings are regarding your current boyfriend, personally I would focus on the person that makes you the most happiest, everything will work out, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat…[Read more]

It’s great to have you back on Blah @paperkites21, hope you are doing well, I’m always here if you ever need to chat or vent, feel free to inbox me anytime, stay strong, you are never alone (hugs)

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