Jessiebelle said 10 years, 3 months ago:
I would not keep going with this guy. He does not seem like a good person to be in a relationship with.
First of all, his age and past are no excuse for a lack of communication. In healthy age-gap relationships the older partner respects the younger partner and treats them like an equal. You are not being treated as an equal. When he says “You wouldn’t understand” that is disrespectful.
Secondly, no good comes from a partner of any age dropping off the grid randomly. Even people who have been hurt in the past don’t do that. That’s at best a jerk move. At worst it’s a power-play that keeps you on edge afraid that he’ll cut off communication again. That sort of manipulation goes south very fast.
You are twenty-one. There is no reason for you to hang on to a relationship with a guy who treats you badly (and yes, this is treating you badly).
At best I’d say this guy doesn’t respect you. At worst, the random cutting of communication are because he’s not actually divorced and his wife/partner found out about you again.
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