Jackie said 10 years, 8 months ago:

Confidence is key. No one will ever love you if you can’t learn to love yourself. Be happy with who you are, and do what you love. People admire that. Laugh a lot, and love your life. If other people see you enjoying yourself, they will want to enjoy you too!

Stefan said 10 years, 8 months ago:

“What makes a man so vile that no one dares approach him?”
I’m assuming your a straight male here, but in most places guys are still expected to do most of the approaching. If you haven’t been approached by women before that doesn’t necessarily mean anything. Us guys are kind of lucky that we aren’t held up to the same standards for physical attractiveness that women are (we’re held up to some other unreasonable standards, but if attractiveness is the one you’re worried about it might mean less than you think).
Just meeting girls/women (idk your age), acting confident, and letting them see the positives of your personality is a lot more important. Even gorgeous guys get rejected once in a while.

Deleted User said 10 years, 8 months ago:

I’m going to agree with Jackie and Stefan. It has to do with the confidence that comes from learning to love and accept ourselves. People take their cues on how to treat us from how we treat ourselves. If you view yourself as someone who is “vile”, people do pick up on that. Putting yourself down, using self-depreciating humor, etc sends others the message that you don’t value yourself and they shouldn’t value you either.

It’s easy to think that gorgeous people have easy, happy, problem free lives. There are a lot of miserable beautiful people in the world. Marylin Monroe is an example that springs to mind. In way, I think people who are incredibly attractive have it harder in some ways considering the difficult transition they will have as they age. If someone bases their value on something as superficial as looks …what happens when those are gone?

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what you look like…there is someone out there for you (perhaps more “someones” than you think) if you open your heart to the possibility of love.

Deleted User said 10 years, 8 months ago:

Hypatia: There’s no point in opening up my heart because there’s several holes all about it for stuff to leak out of. Really. Had two surgeries to fix it.

KayBear: I got no place to look other than school, which has a few dozen problems… And I only have about 50 things on my list. Yeah, kinda annoyed me when that one guy said if you have five things on your list, get used to be single. Oh wells.

Deleted User said 10 years, 8 months ago:

Nevermind… just forget it…I can’t explain anything, and thus, can’t get any answers.