Hi Hopelessinlove.
Please know that I feel your pain. I know what you're going through. It can be very sad, painful and most of all, lonely.
From what you said, you have been in a relationship with him for two years but had a honeymoon stage of only a month. It's amazing that the two of you have gotten this far, but I'm worried that it's only you who is working to make this relationship happen. I hope that is not the case. After all, relationships only work if the two of you make the effort to make it work. This means you have to be very open to each other, open enough to express your feelings honestly knowing that your partner will respect your honesty so that the two of you could find a way to work it out.
Of course, that is how relationships are supposed to be. The key phrase there is 'supposed to be'.
If you find yourself in a situation where you feel so helpless that you can't seem to work things out, then this is something that you and your partner 'should' try to fix together.
However, I am afraid it is only you who is trying to save the relationship. Your partner doesn't seem to want to help you work through your feelings in this relationship. While this may be because of a lot of factors, this is still terrible behavior. You have to ask yourself the questions:
Is he really worth all these trouble and all these pain?
Do I even deserve a guy who doesn't even feel the need to make me feel secure in the relationship even when I already expressed my fears and even when i already try so hard to make things work?
Am I only trying to make things work because I am still in love with him or is it because I am only in love with my idea of him?To answer these questions, you need to communicate that you need some time off of the relationship. You need to focus on loving yourself first. Try to meditate, volunteer, do some of the things you've always wanted to do and just try to do the things you love to do. Take the time to avoid thinking about him so you could focus on thinking about yourself, what you really want and what you really deserve (which is the best, by the way).There are several choices we have to make in life, and those choices are best made when your judgment isn't clouded. That means, you try to focus on what you want so you could decide if it's what is best for you. You decide what would happen next. You could choose to worry and be miserable about it, or you could choose to be happy for yourself.