Yesterday for valentines day, he planned this whole day out and had a whole surprise schedule with exact times and everything. I ended up being really sick yesterday and a lot of the activities were outdoors in below freezing weather. So he changed the plans halfway through, but when we got home later that night he seemed quite upset and quiet. The whole night he insisted nothing was wrong so I didn’t budge again but when I texted him today he was being all dry so I insisted on him telling me what was wrong, and he sent me this whole paragraph saying how he had such high expectations for yesterday, he wanted me to have a great day (which I did and told him several times as well as thanked him a bunch) and he said he didn’t really enjoy himself yesterday because he felt he did all the work and that I put no effort into it. Keep in mind that he is the kind of guy who likes things done his way and takes control of any given situation. So I just let him plan the day. (But it’s not like I didn’t put any effort in, I bought him a nice tie and baked him homemade cookies with a nice card attatched) He then started comparing it to how I don’t put as much effort into the relationship as he does. Because whenever I’m sick, he’ll bring me a tea or he’ll visit me at work if I’m having a rough day. And I am always so grateful for these things and I always let him know. I would completely do the same things for him but I don’t have my license yet, so it makes things a little bit difficult. I am working on getting my license as soon as possible, but until then I don’t know how to prove to him that I care as much as he does, and just little things to show it.
