Hello everyone,
First off, thanks for listening!
Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for close to 2 years. We’re both in our “settling down” stage of our lives. A little while back, he had asked me what I thought of me not resigning my apartment lease and finding a place together. I thought it was a great idea as it would bring us closer (we sometimes have very differing work hours) and this would really help us see if this relationship was going to become something more long term etc.. As time got closer to the end of my lease, things started getting weird and cold between us. I didn’t know what was up. I sat down with him and asked him what was going on. He fessed up saying that he didn’t think he was ready to move in together yet. I must be honest, I was taken aback as it was his idea in the first place and he seemed really gun-ho about it. I said I understood as I didn’t want to push him and would give him time. It’s been about 6 months now, and it seems like we’re nowhere closer to moving in together. He says he wants to be sure of himself before taking this big step- I completely understand that (We both live by ourselves so I know part of it for him is the feeling of losing his independence). I’m just confused as he has lived with ex-girlfriend that was a long term relationship. I told him I would be patient but that I would not wait forever as I see this relationship as being serious (he says he does as well) and that I’m looking for some commitment as I’m not into just flings anymore. I just don’t want to wait around forever and later be heartbroken when I realize it just not going to work.
What does everybody think? Am I being pushy or asking for too much? What would you do or have you done when faced with this issue?
Thank you!