My boyfriend (Matt) and I have been together for almost 2 months now and we’re 16.
At first he was extremely clingy and would send me compliments all the time, tell me he missed me, and sent cute good morning texts. All of a sudden all of that just stopped. He straight up ignored me for three days straight and then was extremely distant. He was a horrible texter and would ignore me again sometimes. There were no compliments or good morning texts anymore. In person everything was fine, I saw him twice during the ignoring time and I didn’t bring it up because I hate conflict. We were totally fine in person. Absolutely perfect. But it made me feel like a makeout buddy since he wouldn’t speak to me afterwards.
The other day (After two and a half weeks of this treatment) we finally talked about it on the phone. He sounded like he was crying and he was saying he was terrified of the uncertainty of our future. I calmed him down about that. Then he was talking about how we would be such great friends but it’s too late to just be friends now. I asked if he wanted to break up multiple times and he said he did not and that he was happy being with me. I told him how awful he made me feel and he apologized and said he’d do his best to fix it however he still isn’t being very kind to me. He said he doesn’t want to say I love you anymore (I can live with that, he says it’s because he doesn’t know what love is and feels like he’s lying to me by saying it) and he doesn’t want to snapchat anymore (he would rather have real conversations, too bad he’s still not really talking to me). Now his best friends on snapchat are all other girls, I don’t know how I should feel about that.
I don’t know what to do. Should I give it another few weeks? At this point I’m getting more pain than happiness from this relationship but I like him so much. I know I love him.
