My mother does have serious health conditions, but sometimes I feel she uses them against my siblings and me In order to get what she wants or justify her behavior. I am currently pregnant with my first child, and have realized something else my mother does I never noticed before: She lies and lies. Just today she said she “took a cab to the doctors, because no one can give her a ride”. My mother has something called medical transportation, which provides free rides to clinics and doctors. I called medical transportation and they said they picked her up and dropped her off back home. That is just one example of the millions of lies she says.
I live at home and help out as much as I can financially, housework wise and other ways to lessen the burden. Yet still she complains I do nothing, and left a note saying she needs me to do “favors for her, that’s how I can help her” She gives me back my money, but still complains about how little money she gets.
I don’t know anymore If I am overreacting to her, but I feel like I am suffocating and every time I talk about moving out with my fiancée… she says we can’t make it or blames my fiancée for me wanting to move out. When siblings and me get mad at her she goes into her, “I am better off dead, no one cares about, none of my children will care if I died ” mode.
She raised us as a single mom, after being with an abusive husband, and that must had been hard. I understand she did the best she could, and I am thankful. But I don’t think I can raise a child in a house with her and I feel stuck and don’t know what to do.
