My best friend and I can talk about anything. He’s one of the closest people I know, and we’ve known each other for around 4-5 years. We literally talk about everything, from greek legends to worm hole theories to topics about sex to playing video games. However, I recently moved to university and met a really nice guy that I really like. My friend, (I’ll call him W), was excited for me and helped me interact with the guy I like.
W has been dating someone for a long time now, and is super happy. I completely understand when he needs to cancel our plans because she isn’t feeling well, or if she can see him. He’ll often cancel our plans to hang out with her, which is completely fine with me because I know that they don’t get to see each other often. If he’s had a bad day, he’ll talk to me about her or tell me what he’s trying to do to help her. I’m completely comfortable discussing that stuff with him, but he recently told me that if I start dating he doesn’t want to hear about any of it.
He said, “that we can talk about anything, and when you do start dating, officially, I don’t want to know anything about it.”
I think that’s incredibly hypocritical of him to say that I can talk about anyone I want to, but if I start to date anyone, I can’t say anything about it or ask advice or anything. He will talk about his girlfriend, but gets angry when I mention me dating anyone.
It really bugs me that I can’t talk to him about anything like that, because he gets angry and refuses to discuss it. He’s the only person I have that I could talk to about things like that, and I feel awful every time I want to ask him about something like that or if I want to discuss it because I need advice.
I honestly don’t know what to do, I want his advice on things because I trust him but he doesn’t want to talk about it. What should I do?