LittleLychee said 9 years, 10 months ago:

I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago because I needed space, I needed time. On Tuesday, he told me he’d hooked with someone. I was okay with that. But then I heard his number of “friends with benefits” has gone up.

I feel pretty rubbish about it, to be honest. I’m not jealous because of the other girls, per se, just that he’s doing so well. I’m struggling.

To me, it just reinforces every bad thought I’ve ever had about myself; I’m disposable, replaceable. I’m nothing special and never will be. I wouldn’t be missed if I disappeared off the face of the earth tomorrow.

I’ve never had great confidence; I grew up fat, got bullied a lot and stayed fat. But this… is destroying me.

sharkvee said 9 years, 9 months ago:

You’re certainly not disposable or replaceable, no matter how terrible you feel about yourself at one point remember that you’re the only YOU here.

And this isn’t the end of the road for you emotionally or romantically. Somebody else may be out there for you and instill that confidence.

rinseandrep said 9 years, 9 months ago:

Interesting, one can delete their own actions from the activity feed and somewhat hide to the community their comments, unless one specifically opens the thread.

@radiahips his insults are still there because nobody flagged him yet. He hid his behavior from the community, otherwise it would rain reports. It’s an unfair comparison.

BlahTherapy Moderation said 9 years, 9 months ago:

There are no favorites. If you are aware of another user being abusive or inflammatory, and I have not caught it yet, report it to my inbox.

DarthBunny said 9 years, 9 months ago:

I can relate to you when you say you were bullied, the same happened to me as I was one of the smallest in school and got picked on relentlessly. We think we move on from such torment until something such as this happens and it seems to all come flooding back and it kicks us while we are already on the ground.

However, you are not disposable and you are 100% NOT replaceable. You are very special to everyone who knows you, and if you disappeared they would all be devastated. I completely understand what you are going through, we have some differences but pain is pain and I understand.

The truth is, karma will have it’s turn with him. He should know, having had been in a relationship with you, that his actions while you are trying to heal will only make the process THAT much more difficult. While that may not be comforting now, while you are trying to move forward from this – begin doing something that makes you feel amazing.

For example, if you like to dance – go to dancing classes. You may meet new people who will introduce you to other people and you will find that it is easier to move on just by being in the company with individuals whom are positive and loving.

I promise you that although you may feel like he’s “moved on” he probably hasn’t and the things he’s doing is probably some sick and self-destructive way of his “coping”. If it isn’t, he’s just a you-know-what-hole.

Either way, you deserve someone as wonderful as yourself. Do not think for a second that you are replaceable, because you’re not. Think of how much stronger you will be when things begin looking up. This will be, of course, a slow process to move on from. The first step though, in my opinion, is cut your communication as much as you can. Don’t cut him off completely, but do not communicate with him to the point where he could potentially play with your feelings.

Best of luck to you sweet girl. xo

rinseandrep said 9 years, 9 months ago:

Again with the abusive comments @arcadium

Deleted User said 9 years, 9 months ago:

@littlelychee
Our Father who art in heaven