You have gone through a lot. Life is a bisexual bitch that screws everyone with no mercy. Although, the secret is to face her bitchiness and say “Whatever you do to me, doesn’t break me, it fixes me.” Life made you who you are, you are original and unique. A perfect singularity. I hope you esteem yourself, because you should. The real fighters aren’t those who win some battles, they are those who carry on battling even if everything seems that is against them. I tough life makes you tough too. That’s enough to face even more of her bitchiness.
I’ll start with the girl. She has gone through a lot herself, I can tell. But she crosses the wrong path, that’s her fight. No one can fight for her, you can only help her stand back on her feet but you can’t face her problems for her. She has to do it by herself, whether she has support or not. You can be there for her but you shouldn’t let her be depended on you. If something happens and you can’t help her, she’ll break down. She’ll start thinking negatively, she’ll start exaggerating over life. You know her, so you can make her understand that.
As for you, (something that you should tell Joanne as well), don’t let your feelings lead your way of thinking. Usually, the answer to our problems is obvious, but our mind is so clouded with unnecessary thoughts that we can’t see them. We complicate things even more and we manage to trap ourselves into a foggy labyrinth which gate is right in front of us but we walk to the opposite path, instead. You said you want to start a new life. You do great not thinking of every past experience, whatever happened it happened. You can’t change your past, but you can change your future. Stick on that. Do whatever is good for you, don’t let anyone take what you deserve away from you. Believe in yourself. Be positive, be confident. Change your thoughts and you’ll change your world.
That’s all I can say for now. I hope it helped you a little. If you want to, you can talk to me whenever you need it. I’ll try my best to help. And don’t worry, I don’t judge people.
Good luck life-fighter,