Adam said 10 years, 2 months ago:

Well for starters, I am Adam, and I am 17. When I was 3 I started getting bullied and it still hasn’t stopped, physically and emotionally. The bullies have took so much from me, I feel like I am unable to live my life. I have lost any and all confidence in myself. I recently cut and really wanna start new. So I am a really nice guy, it is what I pride myself on. I am funny once I get to know someone. I am just, really shy and get so nervous around certain girls. I just, dont know what to do. I am a nervous mess around girls. I have been told I am a decent looking kid but I just, dont know what to do. So girls, what do you look for in a guy? This is me by the way http://imgur.com/WGgsPmz

Cassidy said 10 years, 2 months ago:

Same as above ^^
I feel like, with most guys, dating is just a game, but to girls, it’s serious, so don’t treat her like one day you care one day you don’t, like my boyfriend does with me. Also, just get someone with a personality like you! Sometimes, opposites do attract, but not all the time.

shnygurl said 10 years, 2 months ago:

I think the right person for you is the one that believe you are perfect just the way you are..we all have our flaws but the one who was meant for u won’t see them…they way only see the best of you…so don’t put yourself down I think u look awesome n sounds amazing trust me n please pretty please don’t cut yourself anymore that mean u giving up n warriors never back down from a fight and maybe one day you will be able to tell your story with a smile on your face n how you become victorious…by the way shy guy are so cute n being nervous show that you care…no one really like too much cocky …if you ever want to talk im here and in needs for a friend so lol message me or add me n we will become besties lol byeeeeeeeeeeee

Tea said 10 years, 2 months ago:

I think you should stop focussing on what girls look for, and start focussing on being the best you can be. There is no clear answer to what girls look for in guys anyway. Different people like different things.

If anything, change because /you/ want to, not because you think you’ll get a girl that way.
(If you only change to get a girl, you’re not a nice guy.) Just be yourself, be self-confident and it’ll all be fine, honestly.

If you want to stop being nervous around girls, hang out with them more, build some confidence. Realise it really isn’t that different, girls are people too!

abbeyroad12 said 10 years, 2 months ago:

You’re a great looking guy! Honestly, I think the biggest turn on is someone with confidence in who they are. You’ve gone through a lot but dont let those people take anything from you. Who the hell are they to tear you down? They say you find love when you’re least looking for it. You’re 17. This is a time in your life to figure out who you are and be the best you can be. Stop worrying about what girls want. What do you want? Start figuring it out, build your mind, and take care of your body. No girl can resist a confident, happy, healthy man that knows what he wants. Life’s too short to worry about other people and when the worry stops who knows who will come along. (:

Deleted User said 10 years, 1 month ago:

I think you need to just stop worrying about getting the girls to come to you. As a girl, I am attracted to strong independent males who don’t even think about themselves or throw themselves at girls or showcase their good qualities because they are so inherent they don’t even have to try. If you just don’t try too hard and focus on being you, the right girl will see you for who you are and show some interest. You don’t need to change yourself; you’re perfect how you are. I hope this was of some assistance. just my two cents

Deleted User said 10 years ago:

Don’t give up, be strong and prove all those people who pushed you done wrong! You stronger then you think. Just dig deep. As for the girl problem. Uh… well im a chick so lets see if i can be of any help.. maybe.. haha. Um well you are not ugly as previously mentioned. Just be yourself. Try your best to be as confident as you can. Don’t be scared. And yeah thats all you can really do. Don’t try to change yourself for something like wanting a girl. You as a person are more important then having a cute girlfriend. so just be you and be patient.

Elsa said 10 years ago:

It might seem like girls like assholes, but no one can see your winning personality from across the room, and those that make the most noise, and take up the most room get noticed, are the ones that are remembered, get attention. Whereas the quiet nice guys are just background scenery, and largely invisible in comparison to the showy, cocky, and noisy ones. Even if they aren’t largely liked, they were still proactive enough to get attention, whereas you stayed invisible.

Someone has to get to know you to know that you’re a nice guy, but before that happens, you have to get their attention. You have to make a scene, be proactive. Get involved in some group or activity, and actually be involved, and get some attention. Be noticed.

Eventually the asshole gets revealed as such when their relationships get to a certain depth, but just trust that you will be revealed as a good person over time — first though, learn to step into the spot light from time to time.