Would doctors tell?

It is profoundly ironic: to protect yourself in order to remain capable of hurting yourself.

In the end, self-harmers do what they do out of one or more of three reasons: They do it because they think they deserve it, and that stems from guilt and shame; they do it because they derive sexual pleasure from it, and that is self-explanatory, or they think that self-harming gives them control of their life back, and that comes from profound insecurity.

Two of those options stem from a history of abuse. Self-harming for sexual pleasure is relatively harmless, as S&M practitioners take very good care of themselves.

Do not hide your self-harm. You are either doing it to punish yourself, to control your life, or because you get off on it. From the way you worded your question, I am going to rule out the option of sexual gratification.

So ask yourself why you do it. Do you think you have to to control your life, or are you afraid that you deserve it? Neither one of those are healthy, but in admitting which one it is, you take the right step towards recovery.

Admit your self-harm to your parents and get the help you need, before you get too upset and cut yourself too deeply, or you catch an infection, but stop defending your self-harm.

Never forget that you matter, and you are not alone.

As far as I know, you do not have to get a physical for transitioning to high school. You may be required to get a physical if you want to participate in any sports but not just for attending school. As far as what your doctor may or may not say, it really depends. You could choose to wear long sleeves when you go and there's a good chance that the doctor won't see your scars. If you wear something that reveals your scars your doctor might not even comment on them. If your doctor does ask about them, my suggestion would be that you just be honest with him/her. You could even say that you used to cut but no longer do. Although that may not be completely honest, it normally is enough to get the doctor to drop the issue. As for whether the doctor will say something to your parents or not, it really depends. You SHOULD be able to ask for patient confidentiality which should be granted unless the doctor thinks your life is at risk. Coming from a former cutter, I've never really had too much of a problem with doctors commenting on scars. Don't sweat it because that will only make you feel more anxious and upset. I would recommend eventually talking to your doctor or your parents about it because it really is a tough thing to go through and they can help you break free from it. There are better ways to cope with things and you're so much better than self harm. Best of luck, I hope things go well for you!

Last time I had a physical (kinda recent) they say my scars because thwy were only a week new and so they brought my grandma over to see em and it was really embarrassing so I'd say they will but I guess like suicidesurvivor said, depends on the doctor