Why don’t my parents understand?

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I’m not one who sits around and plays on their phone and does nothing with their life. I’m at school for 7 hours long. I go to practice 6 days a week. I have no time for myself, let alone my boyfriend who supportively stands by me even though my parents are completely stupid. They ground me for having two high C’s in school, when I don’t even know why their grounding me with the little time that I even have in my life. I have the weekends to do things with my friends and my boyfriend. I have gone this entire week without seeing my boyfriend and that just makes me so angry to the point where I feel like no person should feel. I want to die when I feel like that way because I feel so alone. My parents are taking away the only time that I do have for myself and being busy all the time makes me very irritable when they tell me I can’t do things. I don’t know why my parents do not understand that I’m a teenager and I’m trying harder than they think. It hurts me that they don’t see that this kills me. Feeling so angry makes me a very weak person when all I ever do is try to hold it together. I don’t know if I should tell them how I feel or just keep holding it together.

asked November 15, 2013

8 Answers

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a c is good. the american grading system is fucked. and i think people fail to realize that. a c is average. and for you to maintain an average grade with your busy schedule is great. im proud of you. you're trying, thats all that matters. and just because you made 2 c's in high school, does not mean that you wont have a job or food for money. colleges like to see well rounded kids. keep it up, and maybe try to find some free time to yourself so that you wont be so frustrated, you know? good luck xx
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I think you should tell them how you feel. It beats holding it in.
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Your parents are one of the few people in life who will love you unconditionally no matter what, even if they don't act like it. If you haven't told you parents, tell them. They will either try to help or maybe try to understand. It's not written in stone that they will accept it, but it's worth a shot. Even if they act all weird and don't understand, at least they will know. And they will have to accept it. Even if this is more of a one step backwards than forwards, you will be okay. Good luck.
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I get that it's frustrating, but if you're in high school, grades are important. Consider yourself lucky. My parents take away meals for a B+. Trust me. I know that it sucks, but they're trying to do what's best for you. If you don't get good grades, you won't get into a good college, you won't get a good job, and then yo won't need your parents to take away meals, cause you may not have any. I know it seems harsh and unfair, but that's the way life is.
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If you haven't tried telling them, I say you should. It is the best way to resolve any of your problems, whether it's your boyfriend or your parents or anyone. Parents have a hard time understanding what it's like to be your age in this time. You put extra pressure on yourself with all the clubs, but that pressure requires sacrifice. I think your parents believe that you're a good kid and those Cs are unbecoming of a person of your caliber. Just try to make them understand that you are not Wonder Woman. It takes much harder work to keep up your lifestyle than almost humanly possible.Good luck. I hope this helps.
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Calmly, and i mean calmly, talk to them. Say your side and hear theirs and see what can happen
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If I was your parent I'd be satisfied that you're doing all these things as well as keeping up with grades. I wouldn't be over dramatic about the C's, but I would at least encourage you to do better. C's don't mean failure, it means you have room to improve. Just take advantage of the time to study a bit more.
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I think your parents think they are trying to help you in some way and they may not understand that it doesn't help and it just makes it all so much worse. I suffered the same thing with my parents and I found talking to them and telling them what they are doing is making it worse and it was just pushing me to want to rebel, they understood and apologised. Parents now only know what it was like when they were younger and I found it's a lot different now and the school system and social world works differently. I just explained to my parents it's different now to when they were young and just because I am different to how they were when they were young doesn't mean I'm wrong or doing anything wrong. I got C's in my grades and I just said now a C is good and an A is a lot harder to get, I asked them to not pressure me and to lay off and they did, I don't know if this might help?