Why do I want a relationship?

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I’ve had countless crushes up to now, and I’m currently building up courage to ask a girl out.

But as much as I am afraid of being rejected, I am also afraid of getting in a relationship. Why? Because I don’t know what I have to bring or even what I am expecting.

I am not looking for sex. I am not looking for social acceptance. Honestly I just want to love a friend I guess. To me a perfect day would be sitting down on a bench and talking about everything and nothing.

What is it exactly that I want? Why do I like this girl? I’m already chatting with her multiple times each week. Isn’t that enough to satisfy my relationship need? No. But I can’t put my finger on what’s missing.

What does your relationship bring you? Why do you want a relationship?

Category: asked November 25, 2014

8 Answers

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Because life is all about finding a partner to love and cherish. It's not unnatural to want to be with someone, it's completely natural.
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without love and affection we would die . ( not trying to sound dark but they did a science experiment on this too) . when you are with someone and you put yourself out there, you wanna give them your all, especially when you care for them . Its scary to put your heart out in the open , feeling vulnerable. If they are someone you care about though , take a dare and give them the benefit of the doubt... Can turn into the best thing you've ever experienced! best thing about good relationships? there should be no expectations. As long as you love yourself first, I say go for it. In the end we need to satisfy our human needs, we all wanna trust, feel safe ,laugh at jokes no one else will get, level of communication that eyes can only read , feel special , make someone else feel special....and cuddle!
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When I'm in a relationship, I feel like it just brings me happiness that i know someone is thinking of me, and that i have someone to tell all my secrets to. I like knowing that if something does wrong in my life i dont have to go through it alone. I like someone to be there to give me a shoulder to cry on and just listen to me.
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Relationship brings people together who are actively choosing to be together. It gives people a sense of belonging, of being important outside himself. I think what you describe is perfectly natural. Developing deep friendships allows you to move forward in relationship
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Frankly, it's because life is more fun when you're not completely alone.
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Because society now a days show us that to be perfect we need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy. It doesn't help that we're constantly surrounded by people who "love" each other.
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Insecurity, mostly. It's a huge ego boost when someone says that they want to be with you and only you. It's also an assurance that they won't leave, or at least won't leave at the drop of a hat. Taking care of someone else on that level also gives a sense of purpose and fulfillment. I also guarantee there's some sex drive fueling it as well. Truth is, you can be happy and not need relationships, so it's in no way completely needed. You just need to know what will make you happy enough that you don't care.
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Probably because you want that contact with that one special person who understand anything and everything about you... They can read you like a book and make you feel so happy when you're down.