why cant parents be understanding?

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I am a 21 year old girl who lives in India with my family. my parents marraige has always had a rocky start even though their was a love marraige. they were 21 and 19. from the very beginning my grandmother hated my mother she didnt like the fact that my father married the sister of his sister-in-law. she would fight with her daily, abuse her, torture her mentally and my father did nothing to support her. he was in sync with his mother he didnt believe a thing my mother said. my mother lost 5 children in miscarraiges before she had me and my brother. in india the bride is given jewellry from her parents. since my father was unemployed and i was about to be born she gave him all of her jewellry to him to start his own business. his own parents who are rich did nothing to help him. when i was 9 yrs old my father cheated on my mother. my mother forgave them they were willing to move on but my grandmother didnt let my mother forget it. she would constantly blame her for what happened and eventually she moved into depression, during which again my father did nothing to help. during her 3 yrs time of depression my mother tried to kill herself by pills, knife, drowing lcoking herself in the bathroom….

Category: asked July 19, 2014

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contd..... so my first memory is when i was 3 yrs old and my mother is beating her head on the wall with my grandmother abusing her downstairs. and do you know the most weird part i remember that there was a butterfly i wanted to touch on my balcony after that the mental torure kept on going and i was forced to watch my mother disentigrate in front of my eyes. i was there when everything happend every time. i had no choice but to be there. bcozz none of my family would come forward to help my mother. i got her through the depression the sucides but what i couldnt stop was her feeling dead inside. i did everything in my power to help her. i had to grow up fast boz someone had to be there for my baby brother. so i became his mother. i couldnt attend school half of the time bcoz there was no one to take us. i never had the time for socialinzing bcoz no one wanted to be seen with the no show girl. i had no friends, if i did they would go away as soon as they heard of my problems. i think that is bcoz they were young and didnt know what to do in my situation. people tend to avoid things they dont know how to do or what to do in. but i got by. i had to for my brother. i gained strenghts with my books. they gave me the power to move on with life. i could forget everything when i read. i am in a world where everything is perfect. but even now when ever i hear them fight it all comes back. from the eginning like it has never ended. and now i dont know how to get out of there. Please Help Me.
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please help me!!!
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call the human rights center or the women's rights center, or speak to your dad and be clear about it."trying to help her on your own" isn't gonna solve anything, you have to fix the source i.e your grandmother, go and argue with her, shout at her and your dad, read to them everything you wrote here, if nothing is solved then call the women's right center and tell them everything you have to say and if god wills everything will change.either it was for good or bad, you never know unless you try and its worth trying and get your mother up her ass to say something being a naive weak person will not improve the situation, this happened because she forgave him, because she didn't get angry and defended herself but she accepted it and that was the result so get your rights yourself because no one on this site or anywhere is going to get it for you, you should know by now that the world isn't a big happy candy store, its shit if you don't do something, that is if everything you said was true, blame them and get it off your chest and don't ask them to stop DEMAND it.
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i think you may right abiut demanding it but are wrong on the part about womens rights center bcoz i have tried it. they are nothing but big talk and no work.
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but thank you for your help