Why can’t I stop thinking about other people?

My relationship of a year is “almost” perfect…nothing is ever perfect. I can’t stop thinking about what my life would be like if I wasn’t with him. I think about what it would be like with other people. And not random people, but friends, coworkers. I’m still happy with him and I don’t want him out of my life. Am I the only one that thinks like this? It’s never happened before.

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swarley

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I've been there before, but usually it would mean you want more out of your relationship. If he makes you happy, and you make him happy as well, then it shouldn't be a problem. Just don't dwell on those thoughts and talk to him about it.

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Morgan

I agree, maybe there's something you feel you're missing out on. Talk with him about what you want out of life and make sure he knows you want it with him. I've felt the same way, but it subsided after awhile.

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Opulent Spy

Thank you for answering. I'm afraid to talk to him because I don't think he's going through the same thing. He might think I feel less for him which isn't true. I don't know how to go about the conversation in a delicate way.

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swarley

Maybe you can just randomly ask "Ever wonder who you would be with if we weren't together?" and go from there. I understand that you're afraid he might take it the wrong way but if that happens just reassure him about your feelings towards him. Don't get into an argument over it, just simply have a civilized discussion.

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Morgan

I feel like it's a natural thing, imaging how life would be if you weren't in the relationship you were in. What you should ask yourself is, if you were to end your current relationship would you be happy without him? Your heart knows what it wants, your mind is just trying to make sure you're sure :)

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