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Who’s wedding should I go to?

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My brother is getting married the same day as my wife’s best friend. My brother has always been trouble. My brother didn’t participate in my wedding and didn’t go to my destination wedding because he said he couldn’t afford it. I don’t believe that because I know relatives offered to pay for it.

My wife is in her best friends wedding and I don’t want I to dissappoint my family by not going to my brothers wedding but I also want to take my wife’s side.

Category: asked April 4, 2014
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That is a toughie, but I would go to my brothers just because he's family. I wouldn't not want to go support my wife (your wife) but like I said, he is family.
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I would go to your brothers. He may have ditched you, but he's still your brother and honestly more important than your wifes best friend. If you must, just let your wife go to her friends and you go to your brothers, if that's possible. It must be tough, but that's my opinion of what I would do if I were in that situation.
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Hm, this is difficult.. I think I'd go to the brother's wedding though. Although he ditched your wedding, he is still family. And you can talk to your wife about it and tell her that you're going because its a family thing. But at the end of the day, you need to be the one to decide where to go. After all, you know your situation better than us. ^-^ Goodluck!
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What does your wife suggest? Whose wedding invitation did you receive first? Maybe you could consider going to the wedding that you first were informed of. Just a thought.
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FAMILY COMES FIRST, it doesnt matter how much trouble they are if anything if you go maybe it will open their eyes i dont know. he might be trouble but in the end he is your family and family comes before friends, atleast for me anyway ive just been raised up like that..
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Some times it is not a matter of side,but look at the full picture or who perhaps should come first.
I am assumeing they are both on the same day or one is much further away then the other and you simply cant go to bother because of time in travel.
It is difficult as you as have good points for both sides,but....to me your brother is your brother regardless that he didnt go to your wedding ,and what you may think the reason was.Dont judge him for this as one day you might find you need each other for better reasons and why is it that at times we feel we only do something for some one who does things for us.?If that was the case Id be not doing much for any one lol.
Your wife should understand the situation ,your brother is blood and a friend is just that! Your wife may feel different,But I feel that family comes first!
You do not want any regrets with family if something happends later on.
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