When should things happen?

The way I understand it, relationships are both physical and spiritual, and when one starts to get ahead of the other, that's when problems start happening. You start at basically zero when you first meet the person or on the first date, so you wouldn't want to go past 1st base for a while. Eventually, the more you grow to know and love the other person, the more physical stuff is appropriate - like 2nd base maybe. Sex is at the end of the physical part, and at the end of the spiritual part is marriage - the time when you both decide you definitely want to spend the rest of your life with each other. Don't let one get ahead of the other. And about the masturbation thing, I'm not really sure. The Bible really has nothing to say about it, as far as I know, but the thoughts are still there, the feelings are there, and the lust is there, so I'm inclined to say there's not much of a difference between 3rd and 4th base - but that's a call that's up to you (and God, of course) to make. God bless.

Thanks so much, the opinions/advice really helped. I think I know what to do, I just was always uncertain about some things. Not anymore. Thanks everyone

There is no time frame for how fast anything should go. The most important thing is that you are comfortable with each other and what you are doing. Go with what you feel and talk about it with your significant other to make sure you are both happy with how it's going. Talking about sex is not only important, it can also be a lot of fun! As far as the idea of sin, I think the bible has some really radical ideas and some of them are so cruel and ridiculous that they cannot be correct. Remember, the bible was written by men, not by God, and men make mistakes. The book is 3500 years old. In college you aren't allowed to use sources that are more than ten years old. I hope this helped! Be safe! Have fun!

My advice would be to really consider how serious you are about saving yourself ... once you go past kissing, it becomes VERY difficult for anybody to not go all the way.

If you are a Christian, then please realize: Masturbation is not something you should be doing or something you should be having another person do to you. Otherwise, I think you're on the right track. Just take things slow.