What to do when your friend tells you he wants to have sexual relations with your girlfriend?

Hello my names Robbie, One of my very good friends went to a party( took some molly ) we had some good conversation then all of the sudden hes talking to me about fucking my girlfriend ( they work together ) and told me how while hes working he cant help but stare at her ass. At this point I just froze didn’t know how to take it or didn’t think it was real. It hurt I just let him keep going, talking like I wasn’t me, like he was talking to someone else how the only reason why I wouldn’t fuck her is because she cant keep a secret and then I drew the line there. I ask why hes talking to me about fucking my girlfriend to me. His eyes opened up and said he ment his other co worker. I want to believe him but no offence but the girl he was talking about is very petite and doesn’t really have a butt. I wanted to come here for advice before going up to him and talking more about what happened. Please help.

Category: Dating & Relationships asked November 21, 2014

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RobbieL

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Your friend was under the influence of a powerful drug, expressing his uninhibited sexual feelings for your girlfriend was not meant as an insult. If you feel you have reason to suspect that they may pursue an infidelity, then talk to them directly, otherwise, cut your friend a break, he is a human being and is naturally attracted to your girlfriend, but he did not express that is is going or has had sex with her, only that he wants to, and desire is not a crime.

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Humanist Hope

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He had maybe 2 beers, but he did take molly. I don't really mind that people find my girlfriend attractive its mostly that he said the only thing keeping him from trying to have sex w my girlfriend is that my girlfriend cannot keep a secret/ shes faithful. It just bothers me one of my good friend would say such thing to me, and knowing the woman I love is working w a man like that.

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RobbieL

molly will make you say crazy shit .. but my question is do you trust your gf..

Yes I trust her.

I understand that, I have no problem with people finding my girlfriend attractive its just that he said "The only thing keeping from trying to have sex with Popp(my girlfriend) is that she cant keep a secret" assuming that he was talking about keeping the secret from me. Know that the whole time he was talking to me, it seemed like he didn't know he was talking to me, like he was talking to another person. Ive been under the influence if molly several times, and in my opinion it makes say things that you really feel.

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RobbieL

You did well by confronting him about it immediately. You didn't mention if he was drunk or not, but if he was drunker than normal, you might have a sober talk about what he did and how for you it's not acceptable for him to do it, and to not be a creep at work.
Regardless of how drunk he was, you can have a talk a with your girlfriend about it, asking if he's been making her feel uncomfortable at work, and decide together how to deal with that.
After that, it's up to you to decide how things go, it's going to be awkward. It sucks that he said the only reason he didn't have sex with her already is because she can't keep a secret, like your girlfriend would totally have because he's so hot but he stopped her (yeah, right~), you should probably try to mentally substitute that with 'because she didn't want to have sex with him".

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rinseandrep

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