What should I do in this awkward situation?

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I have known a girl for like 2-3 years (lets call her B), and she has always been a friend to me (one of the best friends, even though I’m a guy), and we talk a lot on chat and in real life too. During these years she told me so much about her life, her girlfriends, weird, funny stories, etc. And well yeah, I mentioned girlfriends. Once I asked her to tell me more about a certain girl, one of her best girlfriends, let’s call this girl K. I was like, I would meet her so much, I was interested in her. And I am still… Well, the past few months B. started to feel more than friendship, and she didn’t make a secret of it, but my feelings are still the same and I can’t really help it… I always told her to find a decent guy, there are so many normal boy around, no need to wait for ME since I’m… I’m not sure about my feelings, and I still think of her as a friend (she is going to move to the same city this summer). Well I never told her to wait for me, I had my reasons just like above, still she did wait and last week we were on the same party where we actually meet and… She was like, hugging me all the time, holding my hand all the way, I did the same though, but I think as her friend it’s not that bad. I did not kiss her at any time or anything like that. Her girlfriend was there all the time when these things happened, and the problem is why I am writing now: I really want to meet her GF, but I have no chance I think, since now everyone thinks we are one couple or something… If I told B. I don’t want anything, really, it was just a friendly hug, or I don’t even know… I would still had to get to know K. who doesn’t really know me, this was the first time she heard of me or saw me. :s
What should I do in this situation? I don’t really want a relationship with the girl who is my friend actually but I’m really interested in her GF who doesn’t even know me and I’m sure she thinks I feel something towards my friend.

Category: asked July 5, 2014

2 Answers

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If's she's trying to hook up with you while still having a girlfriend(if im understanding this right) then that should definitely be a red flag. Even if you develope feelings for her, If she's looking for someone new while still in a relationship, what would stop her from doing the same to you?
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complexities of the relationship aside you need to act in your own self interest (without being to much of an ass). If you are uncomfortable with the way she acts towards you in public tell her. Say "I am not comfortable with...." point out that you don't want to ruin her existing relationship. As of yet nothing has happened that reasonable partner would be to upset about. She was more physical then usual chalk it up to nerves or being comfortable around each other. In the end of the day things will only get more complected if you don't speak up.