I’m 100% sure what my sexuality is, yet, I’m still a little confused.
I’m very Hetero. I love women, they’re amazing people and I’m very attracted to them. The idea of being even nude around another man is offsetting, let alone feeling aroused around them. However…I’ve found that sometimes, when I pleasure myself I love to pretend that I’m the girl. I’d get on my knees and move as if I were a woman in the cowgirl position, and I’d imagine the scene. Years ago, when I was much more experimental, I’d explore anal stimulation. I don’t do that anymore but still, what is this? Some form of bi-curious? Do I secretly wish I were a woman instead of a man? It’s hard cause I’m for sure 100% straight, and yet I imagine these things.
In all honesty I feel that I agree with the posts prior; it's most likely a kink.
To be specific it's feminization in a sense; it doesn't make you have or not have any certain preferences. I am a bit of an oddball; I'm genderfluid which has nothing to do with sexuality; however it's based on sexual identity. I am also omnisexual which means that I don't really care what's in your pants, if I love you then I love you; it's that simple.
You need to ask yourself that question more than anything else. Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you wish to be a woman, not just for the perks of being a woman; but the whole idea of being a woman (Which includes hygiene. This tends to scare away most people who have questioned their gender identity.) I've met people of varying different sexuality and gender associations.
The person that truly has the say in it is you. What do you feel? You need to find the answer yourself; because if I just say that you're probably a lady then that'll cloud your judgment. It all comes down to your comfort, the things about being who you are and if you're willing to live on the other side of the gender spectrum. I am one of those individuals where I could bounce back and fourth hence the reason I am genderfluid, I am mostly a girl on the inside though and I let it show. I suggest you do a bit of a soul searching. Find the inner you and ask yourself what do you really, truly feel? What are you? Think very hard about it because the answer may not be cut and dry.
Thank you for reading this, I realize that it may not be the best written.
Hello Michael, and thank you for sharing your feelings with us.
Bah, you just have a personal kink that doesn't involve a partner, that's all. You're still heterosexual, you just get off on the perspective shift. You're naturally curious about how it must feel to women to experience their side of the story, and there's nothing wrong with that.
I don't think it's that I want anal. My ex really wanted to try that with me but I was incredibly nervous about it. Whenever I have these imaginings I'm imagining myself as a full girl, like I'd want to experience vaginal, and my experiments with anal was the closest i could get to it.
I don't think it means you're bi-curious I think it just means you have a natural curiosity. I've often wondered what sex would be like if I had a penis, but that doesn't mean that I wish I were a guy or that I'm bi. I'm just interested in the physiological perspective, like if I imagine it maybe it'll help me make sex better for him (and for myself for that matter) if that makes sense...
The smartest words I ever heard on the subject were from the Office on NBC. Oscar is making one of those, "It Gets Better!" videos for the homosexual youth of America (or whoever) and Robert California gets all pissed off and hijacks the video to say, "Human sexuality is a spectrum. The idea that any of it is normal is absurd." I don't know why, but hearing him say that really helped me get through some things. Kinda like, who cares what it is? If you like it, that's all that matters. (As long as it's consensual, of course.)
If you are sexually attracted to women and you are a man you are heterosexual. Fantasizing about being a girl during sex doesn't change that. Unless you also desire to be a woman outside of sexual acts then you probably aren't transgender although there is nothing wrong with exploring that. Despite what society might say what you're feeling isn't strange at all and there a lot of people who feel the same way! When you fantasize about being a girl during sex is it with a man? If that's so maybe you are bisexual and heteroromantic? Which would mean you are sexually attracted to men and women, but only romantically attracted to women. Anyways, you could find a partner who is open to experimenting with you and explore this further. It's fine if you just want to keep this as an internalized fantasy, but you could also try wearing feminine clothing and bottoming? If you're with a female partner she could use a strap-on, the possibilities are endless. Haha this got a little graphic, but here you go! Explore, be safe, have fun.
I don't want to be a woman outside of sex. Sometimes I wish I was a girl instead of a guy. Either it's out of curiosity or desire or what but I view being a girl as more fun and nice than what I am now. More variety in clothing, long hair, and of course different body parts. But I know I'm a man and I can't change that. ( i would never go along with a sex change, if I were to be a girl I'd want it to be natural) Also no Princen I wouldn't be heteroromantic, I am definitely not attracted to men at all. It's just the idea of the sex, and the body part used that's a bit attractive.