What makes me always single and not wanting to be?

Maybe the issue is you may be putting to much importance in a relationship at the moment and girls pick up on you trying to be super serious. Another theory could be the females you are trying to attract are not what you really need for you. Try focusing on you for a little while and the pieces should fall into place and you will be all the more happier for it. Patience and take some initiative to go out and meet people (girls) Happy new year

Hello there, you did the right thing reaching out.

Your anxiety and overeagerness to be in a relationship is more obvious to other people than you might think, and your intensity and impatience does not do you any favors. You need to relax and refocus yourself, because you very simply will not attract anyone when you are half-desperate and berating yourself.

Nobody is going to look at you and say "He's desperate, beats himself up and stresses himself halfway to a heart attack when he thinks about being single, that's my kind of guy!"

Let this be the first bit of advice for you for the New Year. Calm down, and stop stressing yourself over being single. Life is not a linear progression and you are not behind anything.

Please keep in contact and let us know how things go. Remember that you matter, and you are not alone.

I think ur so caught up with the idea of a perfect girl that you dont allow urself to be sought out by others if they dont complete ur check list. You see im the same way. Its so much easier to give the advice but taking it is tougher.Im so caught up with the guy I want that they have to have everything on my check list and im starting to think no one will have everything Im looking for in a man, no one is perfect and if I dismiss all the guys that want to be with me cus im not giving them a chance as I have my eyes on a perfect guy, then ill be single for the rest of my life :(.I guess what im saying is I have you give everyone a fair chance and you never know ull probably throw your list out the window cus you eventually will find someone that may not have half of what you're looking for.Keep an open mind and let them come to you. Remember, things happen when you least expect it so stop forcing it. I should take my own advice.

Well first off, I would say maybe consider your priorities. Personally, I've never really felt a constant need for having a boyfriend, I've always just focused on my friends and myself, and it seemed to attract potential dates... I would say maybe show people that you are out there, and how goo of person you truly are. I actually enjoy being single, even though sometimes it does come back to bite me in the butt, I wouldn't try to rush anything, just let it happen.