What leads people to do this sort of thing?!

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Okay so I’m sorry if this is long.

Recently, my mother found out that I was depressed. During the holidays I called all of my friends and invited them out. No one even called me back to say I’m sorry, we’re busy.

Then this girl, I’ll call her Kate, tells her mother she’s worried about me. That I would sit down in class and people next to me would get up or tell me that the seat is reserved for their other best friend.

Kate mother told my mum and we told our GP. He recommended me to a psychologist. We later moved schools. There were 20 girls in my class. I didn’t fit in with any of them.

After I posted online that I was leaving, my ‘best friend’, we’ll call her Stacey, calls me in a panic. And that I’ll have to have a going away party. Probably to make her feel like less shit about what she did to me.

After my mother talked to hers, it was revealed that 3 girls in my class (she wouldn’t even tell me who) have been telling every girl in my year that they can’t be friends with me for about 8 months now. I’ve been great friends with Stacey mum now for about 6 years.

I play a sport and my other childhood best friend plays it too. She’s going to see me again. I just know it. And now I can’t explain to my mother that I don’t want to leave the house because I’m afraid of seeing anyone from my school again.

Somebody help me?

Category: Tags: asked March 22, 2014

2 Answers

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Hey Nicola

I don't understand them either, if you are really curious about it maybe you can have a talk with Stacey about the whole situation.

But the most important thing for you is to just leave it all behind now. You are going to a new school where you can start with a clean slate. These bitches bothered you past year don't spend more time thinking about them now and try to enjoy your new school as much as possible.

Try not to be afraid to go out of the house, because the longer you won't do that the more the fear will build up. Maybe you can make a plan what you are going to do if you see someone from you old school, for example play Flappy Bird on your phone or casually go to the toilet or take 30 steps and count them until you have passed the person or try listening to your favourite song in your head. Yeah the examples seem kinda awkward but the main message is make a plan for yourself to distract yourself from being uncomfortable when you meet one of your old classmates.

Please don't stay in because you are afraid of them, they already were mean and made you feel bad don't let them influence you and your life anymore by being afraid.
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It also turns out that during the holidays, they were busy that weekend because they were at Stacy birthday party. 6 years and that's the thanks I get.