I have self-harmed for about 3 and a half years now. I am still struggling despite having been diagnosed with depression and put on antidepressants, just got engaged recently to a wonderful man, and have been in therapy for five months. I hurt every day. I feel better the fastest if I physically hurt myself. I need to stop, but I don’t know how. I am ashamed, and I don’t want more of my friends to find out. I don’t want to hurt my fiance anymore. I don’t want to do this anymore.
First you don't have to feel ashamed, second you have to know that its will be tough and you are human everyone has his/her weaknesses. Third you have people you can count on: your fiance your therapist your friends. When you feel as hurting think of you loved one and busy your mind doing something positive for your lives could be simplu preparing a dinner to something more elaborate. Its a step at a time you've only been on therapy for 5 months be easy on yourself and everything will work out fine. Whod do you think wonderful men engage with? wonderful women/men. Take care
Hey. Well, first off, you should be proud of yourself for wanting to stop. A lot of people just try to ignore the fact that it's not a great coping mechanism, so well done for that. :)Here's a post on tumblr that will probably be able to help. It's got LOADS of alternatives to SH, and I'm sure at least one of them will work for you, so please check it out.http://ithurtssomuch.tumblr.com/selfharmGood luck, and congratulations on the engagement :)
I used to draw on my wrist with pen instead until the urge passed. Eventually I did manage to talk to one of my friends about it, which was really hard, but worth it because then I could call them too. It's not something to be ashamed about. Find someone understanding of that.
I tried to quit cutting. During the year and a half I stayed clean, I used to put rubber bands on my wrists and snap them as fast as i could. They would leave red marks and bruises. I know it is the lesser of two evils, but at least it's safer than cutting.