I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is coming down next month. We talk frequently over skype. Lately he’s been very depressed and more recently he received in patient mental health care. But I don’t see a change in his behavior. He’s just completely disconnected from me with half hearted attempts to look and act like he still cares enough to be interested in me. It upsets me and it hurts my feelings, but I don’t want to say anything or get angry at constantly being ignored/neglected because I know he’s depressed and he doesn’t want to make me feel this way. I find myself being passive aggressive as I’m vying for his attention against a stupid video game (I can’t even play it since I have a mac) that he has completely encased himself within in order to just try to ignore his depression. I can’t even get him to watch netflix through screen-share with me. I know it’ll be easier once he’s here with me, but right now he’s just making me feel terrible about myself. What should I do? He knows it makes me feel bad. And I suppose he tries just a bit by still skyping with me while he plays his game. But it just doesn’t feel like its enough. We’ve been together for almost two years now and I don’t know what to do or say to him, but talking to him just makes me unhappy now. I still love him and care about him, but being ignored has taken its toll. What can I do or say? Any solutions to maybe try to move past this or get over it on my end?
