What are the signs to tell if your lover is cheating?
What do you believe are the signs? I have my own, but everyone is different. Let’s get a few answers for long distant relationships and face-2-face relationships. Lay em’ on me, all opinions are welcome.
I personally do not believe long distance relationships work, and cheating just happens. I need the physical contact, I need the cuddles and the forehead kisses. I'm sort of a believer in open relationships for long distance, as long as you promise not to ever tell the person what happened when you get back together, but I mean, it's some tough shit.
As for signs they're cheating, I falsely accused my boyf of cheating mainly because my mum was cheated on and I was sort of sceptical from the beginning. I'd say, when they have things in their room, like a guy having a lipstick. My boyfriend had a headband, and i was about to catch him out on it until I noticed him using it to wash his face.... he legitimately bought it for that purpose. When they don't let you read their phone, or always seem to have their messages deleted. When they stop making effort to hang out with you but they make effort to hang out with other people.. when you call them and there's voices in the background, when their stories don't make sense, i.e says they were with their friend, but you ask their friend and they deny ever seeing them. Things like that.
Signs: if you see then cheating on you. (I know it's a glib answer, but trust is important! If you're worried they're cheating, bring it up in an honest and kind way. If you think they're lying to you, talk about your trust issues in the relationship. If you can't trust them to be straight with you, maybe it's not a good relationship to be in.)
For me it would be the sneaking around... If they made up really dumb excuses for not seeing you, if they kept hiding their phone from you while texting or turning the laptop away when on a social networking site, especially when talking to one particular individual... Hmm and seeming distant with you, like everything was all fine and dandy... then boom they start acting fishy because of the guilt. This is all just face-to-face... As far as long distance, I'm not entirely sure, since I was cheated on for months without realizing and found out the next year! Hmm.. I guess you have to be a bit of a detective, try not to give people your trust too easily :) ... It has to be earned in my opinion :p
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