I look around and see guys with impossibly great luck when it comes to women. I don’t understand it. Every woman I meet and am interested in has a boyfriend already. It’s so frustrating because I’ve seen guys go in and out of relationships, like they know a secret store of single women somewhere. I’ve only had 3 real relationships in my life so far, all women who approached me. I don’t mind that, but it bothers me to just wait around and hope that happens again. I recognize as the timid person I am that I have to be aggressive and have cracked my shell, but it’s all useless if every appealing girl is taken. I’ve been single for over a year and a half now and I’m on the brink of desperation. Heck, at this point, I’d even settle for a one night stand. Though it’s not my style, I at least for one night want to feel close to somebody. It’s awfully lonely being single, especially with very little friends. Am I doing something wrong? Is my quietness scaring women away?
Some had someone, and maybe you are giving out weird vibes and some let you down easy. Have you tried dating sites? People there are, by definition, looking someone, and it can help you understand if they are all taken (possibly? hardly possible?) or you could improve how you present yourself (and aggressiveness isn't the answer). I suggest enlarging your circle of friends too.
Put yourself out there! Enroll yourself in a class, go to a party, or just go jogging in the park! There are millions of ways to meet cute girls! You're not scaring them away by being shy, you are just not confident. Confidence is the most attractive quality in a person.
You're not making any mistakes,dude. I'm a girl, and I understand what you mean a little bit.Its kinda sad how some girls would rather go after the "bad boys" who just wanna do them wrong half of the time. I'm sure there's a girl out there waiting for you. Just try your best, and good luck.
Firstly I think you should work on your shyness and opening up. Get enrolled in a drama class something that pushes your boundaries. The bonus of joining a class/club is the abundance of people you'll meet some of which may just be single girls, who happen to share an interest with you, so the ice will have already been broken.
Secondly from spending time with my guy friends and my little brother(15 yr old), I've noticed that some boys have, in my opinion unreasonably high or unattainable standards. Fair enough have some expectations, fair enough have a certain type, but my advice would be don't limit your type, and don't let all your expectations be superficial, as that only limits the girls you'll be open to pursuing. Believe me there are plenty of single girls who get completely overlooked. Be it shyness, slightly awkwardness, not meeting society's ideals e.t.c.
I may have gone off on a tangent lol but either way best of luck!
Trust me, your quietness is not scaring women away. Not being a giant arrogant douchebag is definitely on your side. It's just that these loud guys, or just confident guys, pull more attention from women and are noticed more, though not necessarily liked more, and it does pull attention away from you. You just have to keep putting yourself out there and make yourself known. I know, as a shy person, it's hard to do, it's hard to do as a confident person too, dating is hard in general. I don't think you're going to like my advice, but keep doing what you're doing, but maybe in different places. It's working for the most part, you're attracting attention and you're finding women you're interested in, this dead-end when they have a boyfriend, that's out of your control and that's not something you're doing wrong. And those guys you envy for having a lot of relationships, are obviously doing something wrong if they constantly change girls. It's not worth envying, because you are on the right track, my friend. I don't know where you're meeting these women, but perhaps in addition to your normal places, try some new ones too. You sound like you're doing pretty well to me. Don't give up, you will find someone.
Girls like nice guys. But, like in 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower', we accept the love we think we deserve. The truth is, girls go for guys that treat them like crap because they don't think they're worth very much. So basically, 99% of the time, it's not you. It's them. But girls also like to be pursued, so if you really really like a girl, go for it! And if they don't see how awesome you are, then it's their loss. Don't worry, you'll find someone. And yes, everyone says that, but I mean it. She is coming.