Was i wrong to say no?

Ive been talking to this guy for over 1 year. He has put off being in a relationship because of help issues. He has told me that he loves me but has taken it back. within the last 3-4 months, ive noticed on a mutual friends fb page that she said “he is the best boyfriend ever” he was tagged in it. I asked him and he said he wasnt dating her. theyve only gone on a couple dates. he also said he hasnt asked her out and cant control what she puts on her fb. I let it go but its still in my mind. The last time i saw him, he said he was only going to make me wait 1 more week to be official. 3 weeks went by before he asked me. I told him no. He asked me 11 more times. Saying ‘He loves me” and that “he cant be without me”. I said no because of the amount of time he has made me wait. Im now regretting it because i have strong feelings for him. Was i wrong to say no? Is this just feeling about for him because of him saying “hes upset” or “hes down”?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked June 27, 2014

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caring cait

6 Answers

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You are absolutely doing the right thing in telling him no. He is a user and was manipulating you; he had a TIMELINE for how long he was stringing you along. Burn that bridge and lose his number and do not let him beg you or sweet talk you back.

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Humanist Hope

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Well if he's too mixed up at the moment to be in a serious relationship, you're in your full right to say no to him. If he figures out his priorities and who he invests his time in, and decides to focus on you he might be worth the struggle you're going through.

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Mr Roffe

If you feel you were right to say no, then you were. He didn't seem to be treating you very well and being very honest, so I think you did the best thing.

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Hannah

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Sometimes it's best to trust your instincts. If you don't feel right, then most likely it isn't. There is absolutely no way of 100% knowing whether you made the right decision. Either you experiment or watch from the window, or wait for confirmation. If he really loves you, he will pursue for you. How much effort does he exert just to be a part of your life? Love is hard-earned and self-sacrificing. If he knows that, he'll make more ways to be with you.

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Lee Seo Young

Honey, you're not wrong. A guy that makes a girl wait is unacceptable. He may have issues from his past relationships but if he really loves you, that shouldn't hold him back. If he really can't live without you, he should've asked you a long time ago. He shouldn't even be dating another girl if he's really serious with you. You're right to say no. You deserve better. And I'm not saying this because it's the usual advice, but you really do deserve better.

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ipp-od

Did he make you wait so that he could see how things would go with the other girl? That's pretty foul and you don't need him. You deserve to be treated better than that.

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