Thing is, I’m worried?

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I have a friend. His name’s Carter. Honestly, I’ve known him for years now and ever since we were both really young. His family’s pretty screwed and he’s got anxiety. He’s really sweet and just would listen to anyone and trust anyone.
Yeah well, recently, about a month or two ago, he started dating this guy called Blake who’s two years older then him and a senior. And yeah, it’s adorable and he was really happy about it obviously. Blake seems nice and he’s sort of a dork sometimes too, so that’s always good.
Things are getting weird though. Carter always wears like, a tonne of clothes no matter the weather. He’s just really wide eyed and jumpy. Every time someone raises their voice he jumps. He doesn’t eat. I mean yes, he said he doesn’t really like eating in front of people at school but he’s getting skinny really fast and I don’t know what’s going on.
It’s really strange because Carter would tell me anything. He’s always trusted me with anything. I can still read him like a book but that’s the only reason I know something is up.
He doesn’t go anywhere anymore and Blake always picks him up after school in his car and says he can’t hang out with “certain friends”. I’m so over it and Carter looks like he’s falling apart.

Category: asked July 17, 2014

3 Answers

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...Tell him you are worried. First. He will probably ignore you but be as sincere as possible. Hes your friend and its times like these he'll need you the most. I went through this and luckily my friend reminded me they are in the background as i went through the up and downs of a controlling relationship. Carter is probably trying his best to keep blake happy. He seems like a very caring person and its so very easy to get taken advantage of by someone they love. I lost a bunch of weight while dealing with this. I honestly was at my wits end dealing with this love for someone so demanding of me. Tell him you are there. Dont let him forget. Write him a letter. At his address. Something HE'LL see. make it sweet and reassuring *this is what my friends did* It helped a lot. I worked up the courage to tell my other. enough was enough. But dont be pressuring. Hes going through some rough things probably. Your friendship should last. A controlling relationship eventually falls apart with helpful support and a good dose of reality *that they discover*. Best of luck, Soulfound
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i sense depression and being physically and emotionally abused in carter. well i hope my judgement is wrong, with tonnes of clothes?being thin that fast? i mean whats up. what is he hiding on his sleeves? why get all jumpy when voice are raised?he badly needs help. talk to him privately ,let him vent his feelings and seek the help he needed.. let him know that he can trust you.
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I really believe that your friend is getting abused by this guy and that you should really just talk to him, and eventually tell him to go to the police because this guy sounds like he's dangerous. I really hope that you won't give up on your friend, it doesn't look like he has anyone else. And if it's not abuse, it might be drugs. It could really just explain a few things.You need to talk to him, let him know that you have been friends for so long that he can trust you with anything.I hope my answer helped.