Terrible guilt. Help?

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It’s the last year of my school and i have a medical entrance exam in few months, after school. The preparation requires regular study. But I can’t study. Whenever I start with a topic i feel guilty for not doing it earlier so i end up not doing it. My whole day is wasted like this. Three-fourth of the day I don’t do anything and the rest one-fourth I feel terribly guilty. At the end of every day I cry myself to sleep. I don’t want this guilt. It’s so horrible sometimes that I want to shout and throw the furniture around (of course I don’t do it). So I just sit idle or distract myself by watching a TV show and everything’s okay for a while but as soon as the episode finishes, the guilt comes back.
Most of the times my chest feels empty and there’s a sickening feeling in my stomach.

I can’t talk to my family. They are going to take it in the wrong sense. So, help!

Category: Tags: asked June 4, 2013

4 Answers

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It is normal to feel guilty against a task you've been evading; this is just your responsibility talking, telling you what you should have done but didn't, I advice that whenever you get to actual studying and feel guilty, try to ignore the feeling and fully concentrate on your task, once you're finished youll feel much more accomplished and will have the likeness to do it again. It's a very easy step, but you have to get your mind into it, try to shut down all entertainment devices in your house for a while, things that will distract you, so you are fully concentrated on what you have to do. Good luck
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Maybe you should study with a friend. I do that frequently and it works. My willpower is awful, but when I know I can dissapoint somebody if I don't do the task I always finish the job.
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This sounds like a bad cycle. You need to break it. The more you allow your guilt to dominate you, the more guilty you will feel. The less you let your guilt take charge, the easier studying may come. On the other day, not doing anything and feeling this level of guilt sounds quite a problem. How long have you been feeling this way? Yes, guilt is normal to a certain extent when you're not doing what you're supposed to, but when it becomes what's stopping you it can be problematic like this. What do you think might be a positive intention for your feeling this much guilt? Is there any purpose to it? You don't need to give me an answer (unless you want to of course), just think about it. Also, do you *want* to get into that medical school (or what the exam is for ... not sure I understood correctly). Being truly motivated and enthusiastic, you will find a way. But if it's not really something you want, it can be trickier to keep at it. So you might want to check that too.
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That's an issue I deal with a lot too. There's good guilt and bad guilt. When your guilt keeps you from doing that thing you're feeling guilty about not doing, that's bad guilt. You need to take a deep breath and tell yourself why feeling guilty makes no sense, then get to work. When you're done you'll feel great.