so….what do I do?

So I’ve been talking to his this girl for awhile now and I’m really starting to like her and I she’s starting to like me back. we flirt allot and she’s even talking about heading over here in Chicago for C2E2 (Chicago Comic Con Entertainment Expo) and planning to cuddle with me in the hotel room…(and maybe more then that but moving on)

I don’t wanna tell her I want our to be more then friends yet cause I wanna wait till she gets here ( she lives in Scotland and I live in Chicago)…..

I mean…the reason why where not boyfriend and girlfriend now is cause of these

“RCKgaming: how do you really feel about me?
Artic Simba: You know how i feel about you stupid >.>
Artic Simba: Like i said, most of my online things have just.. ended badly,like the one i just got out of a couple weeks before i started talking to you
Artic Simba: I’m not risking friendships over something i’d be getting into waaay to quickly
Artic Simba: dont get me wrong, i do like you :3
RCKgaming: I like you too rachel..but I do get what your saying
Artic Simba: ^-^
RCKgaming: I mean….you know how I feel about you but…maybe before we deside anything! maybe wait till c2e2? or what’s your plan?
Artic Simba: yeah! c2e2 or the next year
RCKgaming: that sounds like a plan”

so yeah…

but here’s what’s bothering me for awhile…. I’m kind of (this is really childish) jealous and annoyed

I Hate waiting for her to replay, she takes…forever to respond…and the whole time zone thing…it’s really bugging me…and I’m jealous cause she’s playing games online and spending time with her other friends online…and I HATE HOW I FEEL LIKE THAT! god I fucking hate it!

and I also wish I could talk to her more then I already do….I use to skype with her allot but she said

“Artic Simba: .-. spending too much time doing the same thing every night gets dull XD”

she did say she’ll get back online someday but…idk I miss hearing her voice (not trying to be creepy)

I talked to my friend about it and this was our convo

“[12/10/2013 11:36:46 PM] Alix: whats wrong?
[12/10/2013 11:37:36 PM] Kal-el: ehh I hate these feelings I’m getting..I’ll be fine tho
[12/10/2013 11:39:03 PM] Kal-el: I just wish I could talk to rachel more then I already do..she’s playing minecraft now and I don’t wanna bug her..
[12/10/2013 11:39:21 PM] Alix: rob…
[12/10/2013 11:39:26 PM] Alix: dont do this
[12/10/2013 11:39:38 PM] Alix: you’ll smother her
[12/10/2013 11:40:05 PM] Kal-el: I know…I’m playing music to get my mind off it
[12/10/2013 11:40:16 PM] Kal-el: I don’t wanna be that guy
[12/10/2013 11:41:27 PM] Alix: i mean you really want to get her attention?
[12/10/2013 11:41:55 PM] Kal-el: yeah but I don’t wanna annoy her or anything
[12/10/2013 11:43:02 PM] Alix: then ignore her. stop with the bit strips, fb status’s, and Skype messages. i guarantee you she will come to you wanting to talk
[12/10/2013 11:43:32 PM] Kal-el: that’s a good idea
[12/10/2013 11:44:42 PM] Kal-el: I my focus on other stuff like chrstmas or my live shows and all
[12/10/2013 11:46:37 PM] Kal-el: I don’t wanna do anything stupid and ruin what she and I have so
[12:05:34 AM] Kal-el: thanks for being here when I needed ya alix.
[12:05:41 AM] Alix: (heart)
[12:05:57 AM] Alix: I’m always here for ya baby doll <3
[12:06:33 AM] Kal-el: (hug) same here for you (heart)"

so yeah I like that idea she gave me…..but it's gonna be hard not talking to her….most times she never starts the convos…I do….

idk…what do you guys think I should do?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked December 11, 2013

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Robert Koredelewski jr

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Speaking from first hand experience here, you'll have better conversations and MORE to talk about if you spend time apart and do your own thing now and then. Yes, it can drive you crazy and crazy jealous. I know. The best way to get past that is to get out and do more yourself. Focus on other friends, make plans, go out, spend time with family, do SOMETHING else. You'll still miss her, but it'll be more durable. And you'll have more to tell her when she's back online and willing to talk. On the other side of things, you want to show her you're serious and willing to do what it takes to make this work, right? She expressed not wanting things to move too quickly, this is probably a way for her to keep it slower. It's healthy, let it be. And in an LDR you'll probably want every minute together, but it's going to be frustrating if you struggle for that. My advice? Don't,especially not if she wants time to herself or to mix things up. Keep your individuality and your life as well as what you share together and you'll be stronger for it, you'll have more to give a relationship that way, if you don't make everything about the relationship...you know? It seems weird, but think about it a little.

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BananaBird

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Uhm, bananabird is on point about concentrating on your own stuff, but
"I don’t wanna tell her I want our to be more then friends yet cause I wanna wait till she gets here ( she lives in Scotland and I live in Chicago)….."
sounds like a recipe for a whole lot of powerful feelings in a short amount of time and in a confined space (for her). IMHO try to have a talk before that so it's going to be clear where you two stand before when that happens, so you can prepare to be just a friend if she prefers it so.

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rinseandrep

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I agree with rinseandrep. Talk about how you both want things to stand on the trip before the actual trip (just make sure you both want all the same things and know what's out of the question), and maybe wait until after the trip or the end of it to really "define the relationship."

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BananaBird

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