Should I wait for him?

I’ve been talking to this guy for nearly two months now. I am 20, he is 21. We went on one wonderful date that ended in a kiss, but like I said that was nearly two months ago now. For much of that time I was away at school and he was home, so all we could do was text and talk on the phone. I’ve been home for a little over two weeks now, and I have not seen him once. We live about 15 miles away from one another. We text every day, but whenever I ask if he’s available to hang out, he’s busy or he says soon. I confronted him about it a few days ago, and he revealed to me that he feels like a loser because he was laid off, and he doesn’t think I should date him because if he can’t even support himself, why would I want to be around him? I told him that we didn’t have to go on dates, we could just hang out, watch movies, do whatever. He told me that if the timing had been different he would be over every day to see me, but right now he can’t do it. I told him I would wait for him. Should I? We have so much in common, discovering more and more things every day, but I am constantly lonely and conflicted because of this. What should I do?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked May 20, 2013

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riversong792

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Don't WAIT.....HELP! If you see that he is in some sort of downfall at the moment, waiting around on him to "fix" himself won't cut it. Find out what's bothering him so much. Do small things like ask him what he's good at, and help him try and maybe find a job in that same category. The best thing you can do to show that you care is to be there for him in times like these. Do that, and everything will be okay. Keep positive. Good things come to those who accept good things. It's a good thing that he's so adamant about his current state of being. That can sometimes mean that he's maturing to the state of looking forward to the future of being a "provider" for those that he loves. Stick with this guy. Support him. Not from behind, but beside him. If all fails in the end, at least you gave it a real try and hopefully he will be able to see that.Good luck, even though you won't need it :)

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Your Friendly Ghost

If a guy says he's not good enough it's a sign of self esteem issues. He's been laid off - the economy is recovering but cuts are still being made. Fifteen miles can be a long way to go when gas is $4.50 a gallon and you probably don't just drive a small economy car. Men like to feel like they're supporting the women in they're life - yes it's a little 1950's and gender rolls are changing but not that drastically. Maybe you help him look for work. Be supportive. If nothing changes in another 3-4 months maybe you look at cutting your losses. But, remember it's a hard time for everyone and sometimes all it takes is time, patience, and hard work for a relationship to really grow.

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