Should I try to work things out?

A little background, Nic is my fiance, he is female-to-male transgender meaning he has the body of a female but his mind and actions are male. I fell in love with him much quicker than I ever expected. I soon moved in and we began a life together, we went through lots of problems and even pushed through the turmoil of his mothers death. Recently he confessed to me that he had cheated on me early on in our relationship. I understood when we got together that there are some needs that my female body just cant meet. But I never expected him to cheat on me, and with my ex boyfriend. I was heart broken. But we decided to work it out. He began telling me everything and doting to me and essentially treating me like a queen. Not here we are 6 months later and I think he is cheating again.. I’m not sure what to do.

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I personally believe people who cheat 1 time and "promise" not to do it again are plain liars (in most cases) . because if he really liked/loved you he wouldnt have been with another person. Think that when he cheated he didn't think about you once or else he wouldn't of! Personally i believe if they cheat once they will cheat again and again. Wish you the best <3

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Hi, I'm sorry that Nic cheated on you.. You don't deserve that. I've had it happen, and I definitely feel your pain. What do you think the best thing to do would be? Are you happy with Nic? I'm inclined to say you should get out of that relationship quickly before things get worse, but if you're sure you want to be with this person then you need to tell them that if they want to be with you, that can't happen. Put your foot down and keep your own needs in mind. Being in a relationship means that both people should be happy. If one deliberately engages in a hurtful activity, it's entirely their fault and since it's their responsibility to take care of you, they need to commit. It's absolutely not fair to you, especially if you're being completely loyal.. Are you absolutely certain he's cheating again? Ask him about it.. See if he's unhappy with your relationship, if he thinks there are issues that haven't been resolved. In my own experience, after someone cheats, that trust can never be repaired. It's tainted permanently and it's hard to try and deal with that concept.. I'm really sorry you're going through this. If you want, you can message me if you want to discuss it further, I'll help you as much as I can. I hope everything works out for you.

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