Should I try to patch up a friendship when she won’t even talk to me?


My best friend in the world started dating one of my other friends who I know from experience wasn’t always the best person to put all of your trust and she doesn’t often stand up for others. So when she told me this of coarse I told her I was happy for her, because I truly was. But then later that evening she texted me asking how I really felt about it. So I expressed my happiness for her and her new found love, however I told her that I was worried about her. And through the whole conversation I made her to stress to her how happy I was for her. After about an hour of her not answering my texts she randomly texted me saying “I don’t think we should hang out anymore.” Obviously I was horribly upset and even after a year of her obviously ignoring me, I still miss her more then anything.

She was my best friend in the world and all I wanted for her was to be happy but I was just worried about her. Even now I’ll try and text her, hoping she’ll answer.

Should I try harder to patch it up with her. I truly didn’t mean for any of this to happen, but I can’t help but think that she’s happier without me.

What should I do?

Category: Tags: asked November 12, 2014

3 Answers

They have a saying "if you love something set it free, if it comes back it's yours, but if it doesn't it was never yours to begin with".I understand that this painful for you and that it hurts. I know that letting go isn't easy, but you have to let her go. If you truly care so much about her you have to set her free. It's not easy, but you have to try to move on. Talk with friends that care as much about you as you care about them. You deserve people who cares the same amount about you as you care about them. I hope that things get better for you.
You got to ask yourself, what action would be the one a loving friend should do? Fight against her desire to not have you around? Or accept it and understand?
Besides, you sound like you were trying to look out for her, and she took that as a reason to cut you out of her life. She could have reassured you that she would be on the lookout, and changed topic. You don't need that drama. If you two have a chance at being friends again, it has to come from her.
Be with people who treat you with respect, this desire to reconnect, under these terms, sounds like it comes from a place of weakness, be it loneliness (a shitty friend is better than no friends?) or a drop of self esteem (it was my fault?), so , it's a call to work on that instead.
I had a similar, had my friend just end our friendship, situation. And it sucks, I still think about it to this day, because we were so good together. But what I have come to realize is that people are brought into your life for a reason, none of them will stay forever, some will come and go like the wind and others may stay for a while. But you have to take the fun times, bad times and everything in between that you've experienced with them and you keep those memories close to your heart. Because if it truly meant to be then they will come back in your life, and stay a bit longer.