should i stay or leave

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I just feel like depression is taking over me and I feel like I need to leave this world forever and not come back but the only thing keeping me is my boyfriend who I love…what should I do?

Category: asked October 7, 2013

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If by "leave the world forever" you mean suicide then my advice is "No!" "Stop!" and "Don't!" There are people who love you, besides your boyfriend, and they don't want to lose you. There are many reasons we all feel depressed, but you can't let it win. There are so many reasons to stay in the world that don't have to do with people. Waking up to the first big snow. Music, sad or happy. The sounds of nature, birds calling, sea waves. Halloween. Christmas. Something, anything, that you love. Seeing puppies. Seeing kittens. Baby owls. I'm not making light of your pain. I'm not, don't think that I am. I'm just giving you reasons, small though they may be, to smile. To like life a little bit. To make it worth living. I'm a complete stranger and I truly do care about you. Please, please stay.
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stay ! Youre worth it <3 if you need to talk msg me !
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I know you're in a lot of pain, and it seems unbearable, but that's a significant part of life. I'm not saying it's going to get worse, I'm saying that when you learn to withstand emotional distress it makes you stronger. So the next time you're feeling depressed, your threshold will be much higher.
First, you need to be thankful for your boyfriend. If it seems that he's one of the best parts of your life. You need to fight to be as good to him as he is to you.
Second, you should embrace your feelings. They're not great (obviously), but emotions are a uniquely human quality and you should be grateful for having emotions. It's okay to feel miserable, it's just learning how to deal with them that is extremely difficult.
Third, these feelings might be a result of a physical abnormality, so I would see a psychiatrist if you're truly in an unbearable amount of distress. They might be able to diagnose a legitimate issue that you're having. It could be something as simple as a hormonal imbalance.
Fourth, if you haven't opened up to anyone (besides blahtherapy) you should talk to someone. Your boyfriend, a therapist, a dog, a plant. Anything! I lost a loved one to suicide and he didn't tell anyone how much distress he was in. He was just gone from one day to the next and it destroyed his family. This was almost 10 years ago and they still haven't recovered completely, and probably never will. If you're not ready to open up, start keeping a journal. Sometimes letting it out in a safe way will bring you some relief. Write anything, just let it all out. Write some poetry, write a song. If you have any creative outlet, USE that. That's what art is for!If you're feeling like you need someone anonymous to open up to, feel free to message me. I've been in the exact same place you are and I know that suicide is not a solution, it's a cop-out. Everyone has the urge to end their life at some point, it takes real strength to understand that urge and resist it. You can do it, don't be afraid to ask for help.
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Choose life. If you can't do it for the person you love, at least do it for the people who love you. Believe it or not, if you choose to leave, people will miss you. Talk about the things that are bothering you to people because when you just leave, there would just be all these questions and regrets that would linger in their minds, haunting them for the rest of their lives. It will be very hard for them to just move on. Some would seem fine dealing with it but they won't ever forget the feeling of having someone who went away when that person had the option to stay with them. Everyone has problems but I'm not saying to laugh off your own. If you hit rock bottom, it's a solid foundation. When you're at the lowest, your life can only get better so fight! You're not alone and you never will be so depend on others more. They need you more than you, or even they themselves, think they do.
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Don't you even go there! Suicide is not the answer to your problem! I have thought about this so called 'solution' many times but i've realized that my friends ad siblings love e. I would say parents, but they don't give a shit about me :P but anyway, please ni suicide :( do you wanna make me and everyone you know sad pandas?
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Stay. I know times get tough but you haven't lived life to the fullest. People around the world are dying of hunger and cancer. They would anything in the world to keep on living. Don't take life for granted. I've been feeling depressed after my ex left me and having no job. Then I feel like going away literally....but then I think of how little I've done. You can't stop now. There is tons of people that would like to be your friend and talk when you are down...like me too! You lucky to have a bf too! To have someone there for you and give your love. To hug them for no reason. To know someone is thinking about you to smooch you! When my uncle was dying, my aunt was giving up. I said to hell with her. You fight! You fight for the love of your life. Anyone would give anything to be with someone. So don't do it. You not only will be hurling yourself in void....but to others too.
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I lost a really good friend to suicide and truth be told, not a single person that was in her life knew why. One of my ex-boyfriends also committed suicide earlier this year and although I still don't know how to look at that, I know his entire family - especially his mother - is completely in ruin. I don't even think anyone knows why he committed suicide either. Reaching out for help means that you still want to hold on - so hold on because of everything you love... Your family, your boyfriend, your absolute favorite holiday, and everything in between. Seek professional help if you feel like this often because I am a firm believer in the power of therapy and I know how much wonder it can do for a person. There are so many people who care about you and those people would be devastated if you left this world unannounced. You haven't lived your life to the fullest yet and I think you need to continue on the journey of life because there are so many things that need to be experienced. There must be something that you want to do in your life - sky dive, rock climb, visit Disneyland - anything and you really should do those things. I don't think anyone is too old for Disney theme parks. Your purpose in life - what ever it may be - is powerful. I feel like I am meant to be on this earth to be the best damn person a person can be while being strong enough to help myself and others in our moments of need. Keep your chin up because things really do get better.
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You should stay. Not because of your boyfriend but because of you. Your life has plenty purpose. When you go to sleep every night and wake up every morning, there's people in this world who don't even make it to see dawn. But you.. you're still here so it means something. Everyone - in some point of their life - gets depressed. It's nature. Not everybody is super duper happy all the time. If you leave this world, there's no coming back. You're just depressed right now which is a temporarily feeling. Soon, you'll be happy. Don't do something that you'll later regret. Feeling depressed is only temporarily. I think you need to talk to someone and tell them how you feel. I'm here if you ever need me. I want you to know that I love you very much so and you need to be here on Earth.
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are really that selfish? i say you stick around like the rest of us