My husband lost his job last year. He hasn’t been able to find anything, and has moved out, to do part time work in another town. Him and his family have decided that my daughter and I need to move to join him in the small town. His mother and him both call me, telling me I need to move.
I have a few issues with this: I work full time. It’s a stable job, I don’t make tons of money, but I make more than some. I don’t feel I should have to give up my full time job, move to a smaller town with limited job opportunities for his part time employment. I work in print and design, and work can be hard to come by in small communities. Im concerned I’ll end up working somewhere I don’t want to. My husband doesn’t drive, I don’t think moving somewhere without public transit is a good idea. If he looses this part time job, then what do we do? Also, We found out I’m 4 months pregnant. I wouldn’t be able to look for more employment for a while now.
He says keeping our family together should be the most important thing, and I’m being selfish staying here. I keep going back and forth on the issue… Am I being selfish? Of course I want to be together, this is hard on both of us, and I’m struggling here trying to raise our daughter, work full time and coping with this pregnancy by myself. I feel moving is putting us in a worse situation? The positives to moving is we would be an hour closer to family, it would be easier to visit. Should I move with him for his employment, and try to look on the bright side or are my fears justified?
I love this city, I love my job. I do feel like I’m being a bad spouse by not sacrificing for the family. This is causing me so much stress.
