Should I look for help?

I feel really down at the moment but not sure what to do about it. Don’t know who to turn to. My boyfriend has been helpful but he’s very busy atm and I don’t want to bring him down with my problems. Also I don’t want my friends to think I’m weird.

Basically does this sound like depression? Most days I have real trouble getting out of bed and getting dressed. I feel like I just want to stay in bed. Also I can’t be bothered to face people; feeling really shy and unconfident and I don’t want to see anyone cuz I’m ashamed of how I look atm. So I keep missing meetings and social events.

I also have trouble sleeping. And I just feel like I have nothing to give to the world. I keep wishing I was taller, prettier, more organised, less shy, and then life would be fine.

Also I’ve been feeling down because my course at university has been going really bad and I have loads of stuff to sort out for it but I’ve just left it to spiral out of control – in fact, I keep ignoring a lot of things and shirking my responsibilities. I don’t have a job so I’m low on money. And I have no idea what to do with my life; in fact, I want to drop out of my masters degree, but I don’t want to lose the money I paid for it. But I feel too dumb and inferior to everyone else on my course to continue. I’ve lost passion and motivation for the subject or, in fact, for anything.

I just feel like things are not working as planned and there are so many things going wrong that I just want to hide away and not speak to anyone. Also I catch myself just sitting staring into space a lot, and feeling tearful for no reason, often in public, which is really embaressing.

Idk if i’m just being weak/temporarily unable to cope or if there is actually something wrong and I should talk to someone. But I don’t want to talk to someone cuz I’m so bad at asking for/accepting help from people irl! And the idea of talking to strangers about this, even professionals, seems so embaressing. So yeah do you think I’m depressed and I should accept that and get help? Or just it just require a bit of strong will/meditation/positive thinking/exercise/retail therapy/or something else I can do myself? How do I get out of this rut? Is this just a quarterlife crisis which everyone in their early 20′s goes through?

Category: Depression asked February 11, 2015

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J.W

2 Answers

Hey J.W, Sorry about what's happening to you. From the experiences you've provided, it does sound like depression. Before I continue, it is important to remember that depression is only temporary, and eventually, a brighter day will arrive. Overall, depression seems to be quite common amongst the pool of problems people usually experience, and it is possible to overcome depression without professional aid. However, I do recommend having a group of supportive friends by your side, as it helps you get by your day. Through personal experience with depression, I found that getting my mind off my problems every once in a while did make me feel better over time. These activities could range from a hobby you enjoy, to spending more time with your friends and family. Hopefully, some of these tips helped you. I wish you luck in overcoming your depression (And get that masters degree!)

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Allan

Thankyou. I felt like I was making it up and didn't want to seem dramatic by calling it depression, but I have been feeling like this for almost a month and a half now. Everyone is so nice on this site! I will look for help. And yes Allan, I should do things that take my mind off it. Of course I need to find the motivation to get out and do those hobbies/activities first...but I'm sure if I seek help from family I will feel better and be able to.

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J.W