I just broke up with my boyfriend because I don’t feel love towards him and I need to focus on getting to a better mindset (I am majorly depressed, suicidal, etc), and while most of my friends were supportive some of them were mad and blaming me. I broke it off because I didn’t want to lead him on anymore and it hurt to break it off because I know he loves me but my friends are all so mad that I hurt him and don’t see that I am hurting too. And when I explain why I did it they didn’t care about what I was going through, just him.
The 'victim' (the person who was broken up with) is always going to be the person who gets the pity. That's just the way the world works. Yes, it sucks. I know, I have been there. But you have to remember you are doing what's right for you!
If you are having issues with depression and suicide, then you need to work on being healthy yourself. Many people will not support that. They do not understand. If you have not lived through depression and suicidal thoughts, you will not understand. Please, do not worry about what other people are thinking, because you need to take care of yourself.
You made the right move for yourself. You need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship.
I hope everything works out for you. Please do not seclude yourself if you are having these feelings. Seek someone out to talk to.
^ thats a great answer. Ive been in this position, and honestly you just have to worry about yourself, what makes you happy and is good for you. You can't force feelings for someone or being with someone that you dont feel a connection with. Stay positive and focus on yourself. Every ending is just a new beginning. I too, hope everything works out. If you ever need anyone to talk to im always here !
you definitely did the right thing whether your friends think so or not. you obviously need to focus on your own happiness right now above everything else. if you focus too much on what others think, you're only going to bring yourself down even more. you are responsible for your own happiness, no one else. so go seek the help you need, find someone you can trust and talk to them, be honest and open. obviously, all this is easier said than done but if it was easy it wouldn't really be worth doing would it? you can do this, baby steps!
I think it was very brave of you to break up with him. I know it's rough, but if you don't feel love towards him then it's better to end it sooner rather than later. And also, it's great that you're going to focus on getting yourself better; that is super important and it's a pity your friends don't seem to understand that.
If you don't feel anything for him anymore youre just hurting him more by staying with him when you dont truly love him anymore. It would have been worse the longer you waited. and getting hurt is a way of life, at some point everyone is gonna be hurt in a relationship. So dont worry