Should I forgive my crush?

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So I’ve liked the same guy for about 3 years now, and I know he likes me too. We just started high school, and so when I found out these things I was a little freaked.. We are too young for it.. Anyway, I recently found out he watches Game of Thrones. I wanted to know what he was interested in, so I googled it.. Apparently its EXTREMELY inappropriate.. And I mean with a lot of sex n stuff. I also realized he cusses a lot more than I thought, which I HATE in a guy. His friend said he only does that around me, though, and it’s just to impress me. Usually either of those things on their own would be a deal breaker, but I REALLY like this guy. And I mean A LOT. Should I talk to him, forget about him, or pretend I never looked it up? And should I tell his parents about him watching it?

Category: Tags: asked September 7, 2014

8 Answers

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Forgive? If you don't like what he does, let him be and go your own way, don't tell his parents and ruin his relationship with them, and get your self a snitch reputation that will probably bother you for a while. Otherwise talk to him about it and try to fix the issue WITH HIM.
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He really isn't doing anything wrong, to be honest. Game of Thrones is a really good show, there just happens to be a lot of sexual content in it. I don't see swears as being bad, because they're not directed toward anyone. You should just see what you like in him, and determine if he's worth it. In high school, people tend to want to rebel and separate from authority.
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you are making big deal and never tell a parent because he will hate you forever for making such mess in his social life, game of throne despite the inappropriate scenes it's great show with great story, if you don't like it then talk to him about it and hear what he have to say
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Just because you are uncomfortable with the content of his television program and his choice in language does not give you the right to be angry with him. Also, consider - his parents might approve of him watching the show. A healthy relationship with sex and understanding that some of the sexual content from the game of thrones is not acceptable for society (rape) is a bonus to young men in today's society as it can help them learn to handle their sexual urges and sexuality. You don't have anything to forgive him over but instead look at yourself and see that all people have different standards.
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I think you should forget about it. After all.. it's his life. He can do anything in his life. You should focus on yourself and your life first. I don't think that this answer is not that useful. But i hope it is. (:
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There's nothing to forgive really as he doesn't just like Game of Thrones or curse with the intention of hurting YOU or annoying YOU. If he only curses around you in order to impress you, I'm assuming he likes you as well? If you still want to give him a shot, perhaps you could have an open and honest conversation with him about both of these topics. But approach the subject with an open mind not in an accusing way (if you go that route). You are making the assumption that he only watches Game of Thrones for the sexual content. While that is a possibility, we don't know that to be the case. As far as telling his parents about it, that's not your place. However, if you'd like to talk to him about it - as I said, I think that would be the best way to go.
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There's nothing here to forgive. If you don't like shows with sexual content and violence, you don't have to watch them. But you can't expect him to change his interests because they don't match yours. Game of Thrones is a good show, I love it, but if someone didn't like me because of a show I watch, I would regard them as incredibly shallow and naive. Telling his parents would be the worst thing you could do, he won't forgive you; rather, he'll see you as a hindrance in his life and someone he can't trust. Think about how you would feel in this situation. Let's say you are watching a show that he thinks is inappropriate, tells you that he can't forgive you for this and tells your parents behind your back. How would you feel? Would you want to continue hanging out with this person? Would you trust them?

The other thing to keep in mind is type of curse words he's using. To be honest, words like sh*t and f*ck are really not that bad, they're just words that we've attributed negative meaning to (I'm always reminded of that South Park episode where they highlight the right and wrong way to say the word sh*t).

If he's using language that has been used in a derogatory fashion to harm someone or marginalise a group of people (i.e. F*g, or N*gger) then that's an issue that should be addressed. But whether you are the right person to do so is the main question.

You might really like this guy, but you mentioned you just started highschool. So you're young and have the whole world to figure things out. Like others have said, let it go, move forward and get involved in clubs/societies with like-minded people so you can have positive and not negative experiences.
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Do Pro's and Con's.You don't like that he cusses.. But apparently he does it because he tries to impress you with the whole bad boy act. Game of thrones really isn't that bad. There is literally sex in everything in todays society. Sex in music, sex in music videos, sex in movies, sex sex sex ._. It's everywhere and I don't think you should tell his parents that would only make him dislike you.. ALOT... And you would pretty much ruin any feelings that he had for you.You can't change a guy. Just like a guy can't change a girl. Don't try to shape him into some perfect man for you. Either take him how he is or not at all. You both obviously seem to be too young for relationships so why not try to just grow a friendship with the guy first.If it grow your friendship with him you can also see how he grows mentally. ( More mature etc.) And see if he likes you more and when your both ready i'm sure you'll know when the time is right :) <3 much love <3