Should I file for divorce?

The real question is, do you love her? "Throwing in the towel" and filing for a divorce is a pretty solid way to say, "I give up". Have you tried Marriage Counseling or something of that sort first? I'd say, before you give up on 5 years of a Marriage, try every alternative solution to keep it together. If you don't feel the same way about her now then when you did when you first got married then maybe try starting off with a Separation just to make sure this is really what you want. But if you don't care for her at all, then move on.It's all in how you feel about her and how bad you want to save the relationship. Also, it's all in how SHE feels about YOU and how badly SHE wants to save your relationship. Talk it out.Best of luck to you! <3

Yes, you should try and move on. All she is doing is playing you. You are her security if things with this guy don't pan out for her. You deserve someone who will love you and never want to be with other people. She obviously can't move on from her ex. I am in the process of getting a divorce myself, it has been difficult but I know I deserve better and so do you. If you want to talk about things please feel free to message me. Good luck and be strong.

I suggested counseling after the first time and she said no. Now she says she will go but I kind of think that's because she knows I am about done. Also is the fact that I have to work 12 to 14 hours a day because she won't get a job. She does keep the house but there is just the 2 of us. The rest of the time she spends stoned.

Dear Roger, My moms best friend went through the same thing but viversa. However he was not being honest.Like your wife. The important question is do you love her? If you lover her try talking to her. Ask her if she has any doubts about your guys marriage. And if there is then try and make them positive. If you don't love her. Then there is no reason to care,file divorce. My friends mom tried the first tip. Asking about the doubts. He listed so many. She tried at first but he didn't seem to care. If your wife shows no interest in your changing's then it goes to show she is not even into the marriage. My opinion is when someone cheats. They don't do it just because it's because the person the once fell in love with they fell out. You should divorce before it leads to bigger situations. Truly yours, mysterymama

I think that it's a strike 3 your out situation. It seems that you forgave her for her many indiscretions. However, this is never ending. I think she is looking for attention. Is this a bad thing? Somewhat no but kind of yes. I think that there is only so much you should take. Before filing for divorce. I think you need to get answers. I think you need to sit down with her and ask her questions. Why does this still continue? Would she be okay if you talked to an ex? State how you feel about things and that you are just going to throw in the towel. It is not a threat it is a thought. I think before ending ANY relationship you need to get answers. At the same rate you need to do better for yourself. Good luck! keep me posted!

You should file she obviously doesn't respect you or the relationship enough to follow the set guidelines of what makes you comfortable. You have been more than fair with her but I think it's time you leave. Take some time to yourself (meaning stay single for a bit) and give yourself a bit of TLC.