Should I feel bad for getting a family friend put in jail?

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So he’s our family friend and he raped me a few years ago. So I tried to tell my family but none of them believed me. I finally decided to tell the police that he raped me and was abusing me. I ended up getting him locked up in jail. Now my whole family hates me for doing that. All they ever do is talk shit about me and make me feel worse about myself. They’ve also told me that if he did rape me I deserved it. I’m starting to wonder if they would be happier if I wouldn’t have told the police.

Category: Tags: asked July 18, 2015

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hi kyle, First of all, dont worry, you did the right thing. Your family is beeing very cold, but do not dispair because you did the right think. The best you could do is to talk to your familily, be calm and serious. Make a family metting if necessary. Of all that can happen, you were the victim and followed the right think to do. Só do not dare to feel bad.
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First of all, you did the right thing. Just because he's a family friend doesn't make him a good person when he rapes - a person is defined by the choices they make. Just because he's a family friend all the bad things he does to you isn't automatically justified by his status in relation to your family. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with you.
God that is a horrible thing your family said...You DON'T deserved to be treated like this from your family. NOBODY deserves to be raped and badly treated. Your family needs to learn that although he is their friend, he abused their child and that is completely wrong.
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What your family is doing is so wrong. You did the right thing. You should try to stay away from your family and not pay attention to what they are saying. That will only hurt you. Try to stay close to those who understand you. You did the right thing! You might have saved some other people from this horrible man! Stay strong!
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Kyle, I understand the situation. It can be really hard deciding on what to do after something so traumatic happens to you. You managed to get the courage to act. Well done. You did the right thing. I'm sorry your family is being the way they are, you do not deserve that from anyone, especially people that are supposedly meant to be there for you during even the worst times.
Family friends are only friends until they do something to break that trust, he broke that trust, believe me, he's no family and he's no friend.

With regards to your family, if you're up for it, I would suggest that you sit down and talk to the one you're closest with, let them understand the situation, talk it out calmly, it's okay to be emotional about it too though. Having someone by your side is all you need, even if it's just a single person. I'm not sure about your entire circumstances and why it feels like they're so against you but it's very possible it just feels that way and in reality, it isn't like that at all.

Sending you strength. I hope you manage to resolve things at home.
If you'd like to talk more, please don't hesitate to private message me.
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You are the victim! I don't know what kind of fucked up family dynamic that you have that they won't support you in this. If possible maybe you should just separate yourself from them.
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Are we talking "stare/manspreading/I got drunk and regret it now" kind of rape or actual rape? Not trying to be an ass, just checking.