Should I break up with my boyfriend?

People change, Miss. Between his past ex and now, he has come to the conclusion that he doesn't value the idea of marriage for the time being, and you must absolutely stop faulting him for that. People are different and want different things.

Think: if you talked him into marrying you, you would get what you wanted out of him, but what if you find out years down the road, with a couple of kids under your belt, that he is unhappy and is leaving you?

You would have known beforehand that his wishes lie outside of marriage, but you were only concerned with what you wanted.

In a relationship, you find ways to compromise, but in the end, the harsh reality is that if you cannot come to that compromise, it is not going to work, and the best interest of all is served by parting ways.

You said that you also see marriage as a one-time thing, then what is your explanation for people who found happiness in second or third marriages? People make mistakes, and while it is true that marriage is a deep commitment, not even close to most people make that commitment with due forethought or trial given to the relationship. Hell, even people who have been together for a long time before marriage can end up divorced!

To have such a black-and-white, inflexible view of marriage is ultimately hurting you. Give some time, patience and deep reflection to your situation.

The fact that you ask a bunch of strangers if you should break up with your boyfriend, makes you an idiot. However, that is not the question you wanted an answer for, that is just the subject in this matter. If you're only after marriage, then you should re-evaluate your goals, because the trick is not in getting married, it's in staying married. But to answer your question, yes you should break up with your boyfriend, because the fact that you are falling for your co-worker, and you have not told your boyfriend about it, and apparently you don't feel the slightest shred of guilt makes it even worse. It's not about something being black and white just because the two of you don't share the same beliefs, it just means she knows exactly what she wants, and if her partner doesn't feel the same, and she doesn't love him enough to be with him without marrying him, then why even be together?You should just ask yourself this: Do I really want to break up, or am I just hurt? Why do I want to break up, is it because of his belief on marriage or something else? Could I go on a date with my co-worker?

How old are you? The reason why I ask is because I'm going through the same thing, but through your boyfriend's side. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we were all lovey-dovey and whatnot. I never believed in love until we started dating, and my parents are divorced so I never believed in marriage either. In the beginning of my relationship, that all changed. I thought I could do marriage and everything. Now it's been two years, and my old thoughts have come back. I love my boyfriend, that hasn't changed. But I don't really want marriage, just a long-term, forever engagement. Something that isn't so messy. There's a lot of stress that goes into marriage. One thing I've realized, however, is that regardless of whether I want marriage or not, my feelings for him haven't changed. On that note, I also acknowledge that I'm 21 and don't need to decide my whole life right now. I don't need to give him a definite answer now if I want kids and marriage because really, I'm still a kid. You never know what the future will bring and how it will change people. When I'm 30, I'll probably want to settle down and be a family person, but today, I want to be 21 and enjoy it. So, maybe he's going through the same thing. He could change his mind, and when it comes to the time you're ready to sit down and take on the commitment, maybe he will be too. But if you're young, don't stress him out and push him to a level he's not mature enough for. If you love him, stick with him, because he could change his mind. And who knows, maybe he's trying to steer you in a different direction because he wants it to be a total surprise. It's kinda romantic that way. And if you sit down and talk and figure out marriage really isn't in the cards for him, but you need it in your life, maybe it's not meant to be and you'll find someone with the same interests. Take one day at a time. Just keep in mind that if you wind up cheating or even just divulging in this new interest, marriage with your boyfriend most likely WON'T happen and you'll never know. Good luck!