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We have been going out about 2 years! Everything was fine at the start, it took us half a year to do anything remotely sexual! After about a year we progressed to blow jobs and the like! But sex always came up! And all the fighting lead to a break up.. We stayed single for about 3 weeks when she then told me she wanted to get back together, and promised me that she wanted to have sex with me, i gave her ample opportunity to ensure she wasn’t just telling me what i wanted to hear, she insisted that she wanted to have sex with me, so we got back together, then she started saying how she wanted to wait a while, so against my wishes i agreed, now were sitting 3 months later still no sex and she is telling me she doesn’t wannah again! Everything else is great in the relationship, but in 19 and i have needs, and its soo hard being with someone who cant fulfill them! Please give me some advice!

Category: asked June 3, 2013
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first off tmi but anyway I feel like u using her as a sex doll almost, if she don't want to do it she don't want to do it
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Dude, don't push her. If you love her leave it. You don't need sex that bad if you love her. And if you just wanna have sex with her instead of wait on her for that part you dont have the right to have her.
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Also consider using full stops and less exclamation marks. But yes, don't push her.
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Lily
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You do have needs and while I agree that pushing her is wrong. I do believe that it was not okay for her to lie to you in such away over sex. Sexual needs like this are not something that tend to change. I think that if sex is important to you that you look at putting yourself in a situation such as an open relationship or in a different relationship.
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I think you should respect her wishes. If you care about your's so bad, then break up with her and find some girl who is ready to fulfill your needs. She needs time and right now that's not what you are giving her. If you really love her, you'll do her this one favor.
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Jemima P. Raine
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Whether she wants sex or not is not your decision to make. She should not have told you that she wanted to have sex if it wasn't what she wanted, especially if you asked her right out if she was just saying what you wanted to hear. But you should not pressure her into it, especially if talking about it only leads to fighting and breaking up. If you don't feel like you can wait, but you truly love her, talk to her. Suggest things that you'd like to do that aren't actual sex, or ask if you can do what she IS willing to do more often. I understand that as a 19 year old guy, you have needs, but she has herself to worry about as well. Something that you need to talk to her about is why she doesn't want to have sex. Don't make her feel bad about wanting to, just ask. She could be waiting because of personal beliefs, or she might just be downright scared of whether it will hurt or not! I'm almost 22 and engaged and have yet to lose my virginity in that sense. I've tried fooling around with my girl (lesbian here) and it's just uncomfortable and I worry that it will hurt, so it's usually her getting the attention in that way, which is fine with both her and I. If she's scared, help her work through it and be gentle and as patient as you can. I hope this helps.
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