I have been with bf for over 6 months, we live together and are pretty happy. However EVERY time we have sex he closes his eyes and looks away. When I go down on him he covers my head with blankets. I asked once and he said he isn’t fabtasizing about others but worries about bad breath???? I’ve asked if he finds me attractive and he says yes. I don’t believe it anymore and it’s making me feel terrible about myself. Any thoughts?
His behavior seems suspicious. It doesn't sound believable that it would be just because he's worried for having a bad breath. It's not bad that he closes his eyes, sometimes people do that to enjoy it more. Just like some people close their eyes when they kiss someone. However, the fact that he covers your head with blankets seems very odd. The first thing that popped in my head is that maybe, just maybe he might be gay and does that so he can fantasize about men. I'm not sure though, that was just a thought. Try to ensure him that a bad breath wouldn't trouble you and see how he responds to that.
Ty. I appreciate your input. I have wondered myself about many possibilities but I have no ideas. Your advice gives me hope that maybe it's not me. I plan to talk to him. But I agree 100%. The bad breath excuse worked that one time I asked months ago- but it couldn't be the same reason four months later!!! I do appreciate any thoughts.. I certainly hope he isn't gay... That would not be conducive to our relationship! But neither is him having zero attraction to me and I just want to know what is going on with him. I just didn't know if it's even worth asking again.
Ty Brody. I do realize that fantasizing is completely normal and am adult enough to accept that. I would never be anything but loyal to him. I guess I just don't want to be in a relationship with someone who could potentially be u attracted to me and need to fantasize during every sexual encounter. I think that would be unhealthy for me and him. But feeing like that is the case and I jnderstand I won't know unless I ask and he tells me honestly, but i don't feel like there is many reasonable explanations to this other than he doesn't wanna look at me. So I'm struggling with how to deal with him saying "no babe... I think your hot..." Because that's likely what he will say. He is such a nice guy. I just don't feel like I'm gonna believe him honestly
OK, sorry your in this situation, maybe I'll tell you about what brought me here sometime. Not totally unrelated so I do feel for you. Trust is key, and if he doesn't respond after you've expressed how you feel it might be time to take off. This, coming from someone married for 14 years now...I almost left because I was hurt really badly. I hope things get better for you;)