See no point in life, only live to be approved of by others

Wow, I can relate so much to that, you wouldn't believe it.

I suppose that now, in university, there's not so much bullies, but you still feel a social pressure to be certain type of person, right? At least that's what I felt.
Anywhere you go, you can feel how you're supposed to be and you become self aware of what you are, right?
Anyway, I'll tell what made me get out of that frame of mind... but I don't guarantee it can work for you. Each person is a different person.

For me, I had a mental breakdown about who was I, who was I supposed to be, and quite frankly, about everything. I've spent excruciating days trying to figure that out, without success.
But I've learned interesting things. This is some personal beliefs, they might be really wrong, so take them or ignore them as you want...

1: Life is, in itself, pointless;
2: It doesn't matter that life is pointless, because you can create your own goals;
3: It doesn't matter who you are; it only matters who you want to be.

So, basically, make questions to yourself: Who do I want to be and why? Stop thinking about who you are right now and focus in who you want to be. Someone gentle? Polite? Good? Intelligent? Charming? Whatever, those are just arbitrary values, pick the ones you like or want to like or agree with and try to make actions that define them. By doing those actions, you'll be defined by them
What I think you need, right now, is a greater sense of Identity. You need to find or create values and embrace them in order to have a fulfilling life.
It's easier said then done, I'm still doing what I can to create and find mine.

As to getting accepted by people, that's hard. You'll never be accepted by everyone. But you can select and make an effort to be accepted by those who you care about or by those who you agree with, politically, ethically or whatever.

I hope this was helpful. Don't hesitate to message me if you need more help, I would do my best to help someone who's having the same issue I did (and maybe still do). Hang in there and good luck!

Honestly sometimes i fele just how byou feel. You just need ot find yourself. Give yourself some time to think about what yoy realloy want. Spend some time thinking about things you like then sort your priorities because life is comming quick. The world is big, you can be big in the world too if you just help yourself how, Dont worry about what these kids are telling you. I have been bullied to and trust me, i would rather be the shadow in the class. Thats how i was in the start of high school but then i got freinds and people started to like me because i was myself and i was not ashame of that.Stay strong! Hope this helps. I am here if you want to talk. Good Luck.

Like others, I can completely understand where you're coming from. I think it is instilled in us through the media, school, and other sources that we're supposed to be liked, it's all about who has the flashiest "whatever."I'm glad you've realized that living that way is an inexhaustible feet, because no matter what you do, there will always be someone who dislikes you, criticizes you, or has something more/better than you. The good news is, there will always be someone out there who does like you for just who you are. But how will one ever know who you are, if you're too busy being disingenuous?If you allow bullies to pick on you, and people to "choose" your paths for you, it could be because you haven't quite found your true identity. You have to start by loving yourself, for everything you are and are not. Take some time out to find what you love. What makes you happy, what issues do you have strong views on, etc? Once you've discovered yourself, it'll be easier for you to stand up for yourself and do things you truly have a passion for, and then you won't feel so hopeless and lost.I hope this helps, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me. Also, this may help you. http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/the-secret-to-self-loving/

Hello DystantMind. What are you doing here? What are any of us doing here? Well, those are good questions and you are one of the few wise people who actually stop to ask them. I won't give you the answer, but I can tell you the answer is not disappointing but actually peaceful ;) Seek out your purpose in life. If other people think you are strange for doing it, then just ask them the same question you are asking. If you really seek for a true answer, you will find it. God bless you on your journey towards finding out what life is all about :)