School Shooting

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I go to Florida State University, a few hours ago someone shot up the library. Only two people were shot, they’re in the hospital currently, and I wasn’t even there. But I’ve been to the library every night for two weeks since my computer has been malfunctioning. If I didn’t get the computer back from I.T. services this morning, I would have been in the library, on the first floor, right where the shooting occurs. I keep thinking about that and I can’t seem to stop dwelling on it. I was almost there anyway since I couldn’t focus on an essay a few hours ago.

I feel guilty about freaking out like this, since I wasn’t in the library at all, and there are people who have more reason to feel scared. But that could have been me down there. Or my boyfriend, who lives in a dorm across from the library. I’m not really sure how I’m supposed to be feeling.

Tags: asked November 20, 2014

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Hey, it's okay for you to feel this way. This sort of occurrence is terrifying, traumatizing, and can cause severe drops in mental health due to the violent, graphic nature of a shooting. Something like this affects everyone, regardless of how directly affected they are to the incident. Talk it out with the people you love and get it all out. Find support from the people you love and make sure you communicate your needs and fears to them. Try to get back into routine, and remind yourself of all the good things in the world. If things get rough, I would suggest seeking a counselor or psychologist. Take care of yourself, and you should be just fine.
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You are currently reflecting on your circumstances, and this is perfectly okay; give your situation some time to sink in, but do not make the mistake of going from reflection to rumination. What's done is done and dwelling on it will not change it.

The Wizard's Seventh Rule states that "Life is the future, not the past." and goes on to explain that "The past can teach us, through experience, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide the foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. To live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew."

Give yourself time and patience to process what has happened, but do not become so preoccupied with it that you forget to keep living.

If you need to discuss this further, my inbox is always open: blahtherapy.com/members/blackholehead
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Thank you guys, I really appreciate what you've said.
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what the fuk