Relationship help?

Okay, so here are the details.
I am a 15 year old guy.
I have a crush on my best friend, who is a girl (figured I should specify). She is awesome and I’m pretty sure she likes me back. We cuddle and link arms when we walk and that stuff. Almost everyone thinks we’re dating or wants us to be dating. I would ask her out, but there are two things that are keeping me from doing it.
1) My other close friend also has a crush on her, and I wouldn’t want to hurt him
2) I don’t want the dating thing to go badly and ruin the great friendship I have with her, cause that would suck so much.
Anyone have any ideas on what I should do?
Greatly appreciated
Thanks in advance

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123pete45

3 Answers

Maybe try talking to your friend about this, find out what he think and how he feels about it all. He might understand. As for the friendship preservation part, I guess thats a very personal decision, you'll have to think about how you might feel down the line if you didn't say anything, or if you did, and whether that risk is something you are willing to take. Whatever you decide to do, good luck :)

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PhantomOther

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First you should go to your friend and see if it's ok with him. You don't want to hurt him by not talking to him. If he says no, wait it out. He's probably not even that serious about her anyways. If he gives you the ok, then go and talk to the girl. Don't freak her our, just drop hints and eventually have a nice talk with her. Ask her how she feels, and if she says she doesn't like you then be very understanding (and not awkward).

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Lucy

fight for your bestfriend. try to confront her about your feelings for her. if she says she doesn't want to be your lover instead wants to be your loyal bestfriend forever. accept it and move on. what important is you made the first move. because if you wont do it, you will regret it in the end. maybe she's just waiting for you to make the first move. If your guy friend really loves her, he will be happy for both of you. :) but what ever her reaction after you confront her, be sure not to be a different guy. just assure her that you are still the bestfriend she used to know : <3

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hidemenow